How should I distinguish between what burdens a woman psychologically and physiologically?

Like, my crush seems tough in starting work at 6am (in retail), but there are times when she's fed up with work at 11pm already (not the same shift here). She also does things at work like walking quite some miles through the store through the day, which would get me exhausted (I used to work part-time in that same field for a while).

Now when costumers come up to her, she sometimes takes some time to walk with them and show them stuff they have questions about. But then again there sometimes are clumsy costumers who accidentally drop something and she has to clean it up. I mean I've sometimes forgotten about recipes for meals she recommended to me and she had to repeat them for me once more.

What I wonder about here is: What is it really in that job which gets women like her exhausted after some time? I'd like to know because I'd eventually try to help her here and there.

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quitwhendone · M

Sometimes it's physical. Sometimes it's stress. Sometimes it's annoying people. Sometimes it's standing on your feet all day. Sometimes it a combination of those. Sometimes it's all of them. Sometimes it's other things. Ask her.

So are you in a relationship with her or is she just your crush?

scooogy · 31-35, MVIP

@quitwhendone just my crush, but she knows I care about her.

quitwhendone · M

@scooogy Ask her out already.

scooogy · 31-35, MVIP

@quitwhendone my greatest worry here is how to continue around her in case of a no

quitwhendone · M

@scooogy So you work with her?

scooogy · 31-35, MVIP

@quitwhendone no, but I'm a usability engineer buying my groceries where she works.

quitwhendone · M

@scooogy Do you talk to her a lot when you go in there?

What's a usability engineer?

scooogy · 31-35, MVIP

@quitwhendone yes, I do.

And a usability engineer analyses tools in effectivity, efficiency and satisfiability in psychological and physiological demands, in order to optimize them all while including the users when evaluating the new design which all follows the rules of engineering.

quitwhendone · M

@scooogy What kind of tools are they using at this store?

scooogy · 31-35, MVIP

@quitwhendone for example she pulls full bags of returnable bottles out of a big box and so she'd usually harm her back when doing so, but I found a tool that might be able to help her with that. Now I'm somehow too nervous to show it to her, like I was when I recommended a massage chair to her because she told me of her aching back at work.

quitwhendone · M

@scooogy Oh, that's cool.

Ask her for her number. Guys always ask women for there numbers and they usually say "no" so it's no big deal. Just continue to be professional if she turns you down.

scooogy · 31-35, MVIP

@quitwhendone but on the other hand what I really enjoy are the personal chats with her, which I really don't want to miss out on :/

And also, I wouldn't know what to do with her if she'd really become my girlfriend :/

quitwhendone · M

@scooogy If she turns you down she will still chat with you. You worry too much.

scooogy · 31-35, MVIP

@quitwhendone I think so, for example I've always told myself that there'd be the perfect time when to ask a woman out in order to get a yes. And also, I wouldn't know if I could really maintain a relationship, since I've been single most of my life :/

quitwhendone · M

@scooogy Bring up a movie you want to see then ask her if she wants to go with you this coming weekend.