My husband is in detox and wanted to kill himself last night.
I drove him to the ER. He violated probation a month in, and I am going to feel so lost if he either goes to jail or treatment. He really needs inpatient treatment.
31-35, F
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Th1nkF1rst · 70-79, M
Starkizzed21 · 31-35, F
This is someone I love and have been with for 7 years. We have 2 bio children together, 8mo and 3 1/2 years, and a 7 year old stepdaughter.
I do not give up on people I love. Addiction is no joke. It is not easy to overcome. This has not been a tormented life. It has been full of memories and adventures and so much love and laughter.
I dont ask anyone what I should do. That wasn't part of my statement. He is going to get treatment eventually, but first he has to find out what his PO says. There might be protocol to follow before that.
As hard as it is to not have him here right now, I'm hopeful this will be the eye opener he needs.
I do not give up on people I love. Addiction is no joke. It is not easy to overcome. This has not been a tormented life. It has been full of memories and adventures and so much love and laughter.
I dont ask anyone what I should do. That wasn't part of my statement. He is going to get treatment eventually, but first he has to find out what his PO says. There might be protocol to follow before that.
As hard as it is to not have him here right now, I'm hopeful this will be the eye opener he needs.
nedkelly · 61-69, M
@Starkizzed21: He is a selfish bastard as he puts addiction before the family, most decent males put the family first
Starkizzed21 · 31-35, F
@nedkelly: he started doing drugs because of depression that didn't get attended to. There is an underlying factor that drives him to numb. Everyone is capable of being selfish. He has worked long hard hours to maintain a roof over our head. He is not a selfish bastard. He is my husband, a father, someone's brother, someone's child, an uncle, and he put his addictIon second to us, because he was ashamed and in denial. He never once left for a night or days on end just to use. If I needed something he would help. He would sacrifice his sleep to let me get extra hours of sleep while he got the kids up in the morning (worked overnights). you jump to an assumption as if you know him. You do not.
Th1nkF1rst · 70-79, M
@Starkizzed21: YOU picked a WINNER! 7 years, kids, NO Marriage! No Money! No Home!
YOU'RE Totally Co-Dependent and Delusional
Freaking Addicted Hooked to this guy who will likely suck the life out of you and the children... does he hit and scream and threaten you a lot?
Drop by an Abused Woman's Shelter to visit and see what your likely outcome will be.... Perhaps you can get treatment for Co-Dependency and How to Live with and Manage the life of an Addict.
YOU'RE Totally Co-Dependent and Delusional
Freaking Addicted Hooked to this guy who will likely suck the life out of you and the children... does he hit and scream and threaten you a lot?
Drop by an Abused Woman's Shelter to visit and see what your likely outcome will be.... Perhaps you can get treatment for Co-Dependency and How to Live with and Manage the life of an Addict.
Starkizzed21 · 31-35, F
@Th1nkF1rst: we are married. Wow. Just stop. We have a home, have money- you're a delusional asshole who does not actually think first.
He's not abusive. Never ever has been.
He's not abusive. Never ever has been.