I'm perceived as being harsh by people

I believe in doing things rightly, i follow procedures and will be flexible if need be . I apply this to my job and try to get everyone do things rightly. I play a sort of quality assurance role. But i am being perceived as being harsh by my colleagues. People see me and start to murmur things like 'oh she's coming, who knows what she would say i did wrong this time' If i don't get them to correct these errors, our quality standards will be in jeopardy. I also can't make the corrections myself, else my own job would suffer. But i feel terrible imagining what colleagues think of me. My boss keeps commending my effort and has expressed that things have become very tidy since i took up the role. I love the job but i don't like how others feel about me. Not sure what to do. Any advise please?

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LadyGrace ·

Yes, just be yourself and love yourself for who you are. We would go crazy trying to please everyone. People either like you or they don't. They don't get to determine your worth. It sounds like you take pride in doing your best at whatever you do and there's nothing wrong with that. That is quite commendable. You also sound a bit like myself, a bit of a perfectionist at times. Hahaha I think that's a good thing. As long as one does not become obsessive about it. Your boss seems to really appreciate all your effort. Carry on and enjoy your job, regardless of other's insecurities. It truly sounds like you're dealing with some jealous ones. You should be proud of yourself, which I am sure you are, and rightly so. Keep up the good work.

MaryN · 36-40, F

@LadyGrace Thanks a lot for the advice. 'Anything worth doing is worth doing well' the say. I try to give everything my best shot. Just wish i could carry on without stepping on too many toes.

LadyGrace ·

@MaryN Don't blame yourself for nothing, Mary. You've done nothing wrong at all. Their feelings actually have nothing to do with you. Their response to you is simply their feelings of insecurity. Don't take that onto yourself. There is something in them that is lacking, which would come out no matter who they are with or who they observe.