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BryanSunshine · 51-55, M
Would you say that men do this more than women?
As a man, I have no problem cold PM’ing another man and asking personal questions. But I will never PM a woman unless she does first.
As a man, I have no problem cold PM’ing another man and asking personal questions. But I will never PM a woman unless she does first.

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@BryanSunshine I don't know. I am not fond of gender bashing or distinguishing by any groups. People are people to me.
BryanSunshine · 51-55, M
I’m not fond of gender bashing either. But I don’t think there is anything wrong with recognizing and discussing the differences between men and women.

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@BryanSunshine Women are as capable of harassing people as men are. I'm usually fine to ignore these messages. I was just caught in a bad mood.
BryanSunshine · 51-55, M
I agree that women are just as *capable*. But being capable and actually doing it are two different things
I’m just curious if, in your experience, if it is men or women who most often send you unwanted private messages asking personal questions.
Totally cool if you don’t want to answer.
As for me, lots of guys assume that because i am willing to discuss and talk about sex with my wife, that I’m probably willing to share naked pics of her too. I’m not. But I get a fair number of people asking, and some even get mad when I tell them no.
So far, the only unsolicited PM’s I’ve received from women on this site have been to apologize for potentially being rude!
So yeah, I see a huge difference between the two genders in terms of type and quantity of pm’s. And I’m a man. I’m not bashing other men. I’m just sharing my experience.
I’m just curious if, in your experience, if it is men or women who most often send you unwanted private messages asking personal questions.
Totally cool if you don’t want to answer.
As for me, lots of guys assume that because i am willing to discuss and talk about sex with my wife, that I’m probably willing to share naked pics of her too. I’m not. But I get a fair number of people asking, and some even get mad when I tell them no.
So far, the only unsolicited PM’s I’ve received from women on this site have been to apologize for potentially being rude!
So yeah, I see a huge difference between the two genders in terms of type and quantity of pm’s. And I’m a man. I’m not bashing other men. I’m just sharing my experience.

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@BryanSunshine I don't often get such messages. But so far its 5:1 men : women.
BryanSunshine · 51-55, M
Ok yeah, that’s about what I would expect