Is it crazy to think couples in this day and age won't cheat on each other?

It seems that more and more couples are straying from one another while staying in the relationships. Is this the new normal? It's kind of scary.

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Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F

I think it is on the increase.. it's not all.. but in these days where it's so easy to connect with new people online or at work.. it's so easy.. and temptation is always so close.. I think too that people seem to have shorter attention spans.. and don't seem to want to work at relationships.. the minute something displeases them they are off looking for comfort elsewhere... It's sad.. I think we all know the answers... and one of those things involves better communication about what we want, what we need, what we desire... and another is compromise and a bit of hard work..

Lol either that or just go for a nice open relationships or swinging :P

1234567890a

@Adaydreambeliever that's disgusting and not an option for some.

Gypsy11

@Adaydreambeliever I agree. Not a fan of the open relationship, swinging part. Defeats the purpose if actually being in a relationship 🤣

Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F

@1234567890a which bit was disgusting? The working on better communication? Or the working it out? Yea I know.. .that's dead against some people's thinking :P
LOL but I am guessing you meant the open relationship? Truly whether it's disgusting is a matter of subjective perspective.. it's not inherently disgusting and it does work for many.. but I do think you maybe failed to appreciate that I was making a joke? Not that there's anything wrong with swinging either :P

1234567890a

Better Communication yes, good. I realized you were making a joke. I meant an open relationship or otherwise would not be an option for some.

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1234567890a

@1234567890a you're entitled to not see anything wrong with open or otherwise, but my reaction is 🤢😷

Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F

@Spoiledbrat well.... don't knock it till you try it :P Seriously though, it works for many.. and most of them have a loving happy, stable relationship.. I read an article a week or so ago, (while waiting for the doc to look at my thumb) that said that swingers have happier and healthier relationships AND are more likely to use condoms.. The idea was that the swingers tend to be more open.. to communicate better with their partners.. they tend not to have an idealised idea of sex.. and place less importance on monogamy..

1234567890a

@Adaydreambeliever don't need s3x that bad.

Gypsy11

I am very open minded. I however, would have a very hard time watching my SO having sex with someone else 😉

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1234567890a

@Spoiledbrat true looking for thrills.

Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F

@Spoiledbrat I was again being flippant when I said don't knock it.. it's my way.. I am a Brit and we have a weird sense of humour :P I would say though that I promise you it's possible to have all of that.. a meaningful, loving, long term/forever relationship but still meet others for sex..and the article did seem to support that actually swinger couples have a more stable and happy, and meaningful relationship than others... I guess what I am saying is... that it doesn't prevent or change the basic relationship.. love, trust, caring, commitment.. the fact you have sex with others doesn't change that.

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Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F

@1234567890a and you are entitled not to like the idea :)

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Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F

@Spoiledbrat yes, I think we agree on the desire for instant gratification.. it's the way people are moving.. it's sad..

And yes, I know you believe that swinging means there isn't that meaning within one's relationship.. all I can say is that's not the experience of many of those who have that aspect in their life and many who want it in their life.. I would be the first to say it doesn't work for everyone.

1234567890a

@Adaydreambeliever yes for some that is their interest and some it never would be an interest. Hopefully the ones who would never consider it an option will not end up with someone who would.