Why don’t people value me?

So everywhere I go, for as long as I can remember, I have been referred to as ___’s little sister. (I’m going to spare my brother his privacy) I feel like no one knows me as a person and only as the little sister. No one cares enough to get to know me, and every time I engage in conversation with someone, they without fail always ask about my brother. They also never get my name right. It’s always “Meredith, or Madelyn.” It’s freaking MARILYN. It’s not that damn hard. Why don’t people view me as a freaking human instead of just __’s little sister? I hate it.

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kayoshin · 36-40, M

It's not you, it's him. He's too popular for your good :) Maybe you should also make some friends that don't know your brother.

marilynmichelle · F

@kayoshin I have a couple. But the issue is it’s most of the people at our church that have known us our whole lives that refer to me as this. It pisses me off.

kayoshin · 36-40, M

@marilynmichelle Don't get hung up on that, you're still young there will be many more things ahead to be pissed about, more important things. At least people recognise you it's still something. I was totally invisible till about your age, on the other hand I saw it as an advantage.

daisymay · 51-55, T

@marilynmichelle At church? I think I see the problem... I'd be willing to wager a lot of the women in your church are referred to as So-and-So's wife/mother/daughter/sister.