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rckt148 · 61-69, M
After having to carry the burden of lies for others and myself for years ,
I finally had to confess all my sins ,I wasn't willing to do it another day ,
It cost me everything doing it ,but after a few years ,I stopped regretting doing it ,now no one has ANYTHING on me ,nothing
They can drag up my past if they like ,but its old news
my family and my ex wives families know the truth ,my kids after they got old enough ,I took full responsibility for the years I was not in their lives and for things they had been through as a result of my not growing up and putting my family first ,,they were hid from me for 12 yrs ,that alone was punishment enough
But then I had everyone knowing all the stuff I had done to my wives and friends and family to live down too ,,,and even the so called "forgiven "Christians threw my past up to me too for years ,things no one ever knew until I confessed .
so now that I have gone through that ,do you think I would carry a chain of guilt and lies again ? Not on your life
People who love me know ,don't ask me to lie for you ,and don't put me in something I might be asked the truth ,,I won't lie for my kids ,they won't lie for me .
I may withhold info to protect someone ,,but I am not going to lie for them
Don't ask my opinion unless you want as close as I can give you to the truth
Because I will tell you "Yes ,In my opinion that dress does make your hips look wider than they are " and I believe in tough love ,
If I am wrong ,tell me ,if I am I will admit it ,if I sin I will repent
But I no longer just lie for the sake of feeling ,,
It has cost me a good woman ,my company and my self respect and peace of mind
Thats a big price to pay for keeping stupid secrets ,
That may have been forgiven ,had I not made a fool out of so many people for so many years ,,now I am an open book ,,,and people respect me for being that way .
You can take my word to the bank
And I can borrow anything I need on my word ,people now know I learned my lesson
I can be trusted ,,and men also know I don't make idle threats
If I say I'm coming for you ,you can count on it ,,I'm on my way
People also know to take me seriously ,and I say whats on my mind
No one can say I am 2 faced
I finally had to confess all my sins ,I wasn't willing to do it another day ,
It cost me everything doing it ,but after a few years ,I stopped regretting doing it ,now no one has ANYTHING on me ,nothing
They can drag up my past if they like ,but its old news
my family and my ex wives families know the truth ,my kids after they got old enough ,I took full responsibility for the years I was not in their lives and for things they had been through as a result of my not growing up and putting my family first ,,they were hid from me for 12 yrs ,that alone was punishment enough
But then I had everyone knowing all the stuff I had done to my wives and friends and family to live down too ,,,and even the so called "forgiven "Christians threw my past up to me too for years ,things no one ever knew until I confessed .
so now that I have gone through that ,do you think I would carry a chain of guilt and lies again ? Not on your life
People who love me know ,don't ask me to lie for you ,and don't put me in something I might be asked the truth ,,I won't lie for my kids ,they won't lie for me .
I may withhold info to protect someone ,,but I am not going to lie for them
Don't ask my opinion unless you want as close as I can give you to the truth
Because I will tell you "Yes ,In my opinion that dress does make your hips look wider than they are " and I believe in tough love ,
If I am wrong ,tell me ,if I am I will admit it ,if I sin I will repent
But I no longer just lie for the sake of feeling ,,
It has cost me a good woman ,my company and my self respect and peace of mind
Thats a big price to pay for keeping stupid secrets ,
That may have been forgiven ,had I not made a fool out of so many people for so many years ,,now I am an open book ,,,and people respect me for being that way .
You can take my word to the bank
And I can borrow anything I need on my word ,people now know I learned my lesson
I can be trusted ,,and men also know I don't make idle threats
If I say I'm coming for you ,you can count on it ,,I'm on my way
People also know to take me seriously ,and I say whats on my mind
No one can say I am 2 faced
Wraithorn · 51-55, M
I think that as long as your friend is not causing any harm with those lies then it's not really a problem. On the other hand if people catch her out telling lies then they will not trust other things she says.
On the third hand how many of us tell lies every day by habit or to avoid unnecessary questions ?
How many times has someone asked you if you are OK and you aswered that you were fine when in fact all was not fine ?
I'm not lecturing, just adding thoughts.
On the third hand how many of us tell lies every day by habit or to avoid unnecessary questions ?
How many times has someone asked you if you are OK and you aswered that you were fine when in fact all was not fine ?
I'm not lecturing, just adding thoughts.
@Wraithorn I dont say im fine when I am not. of course then they ask whats wrong and I either say I do not want t go into it or I actually tell them whats wrong. my friends always used to do this to me and I hate it. I want them to tell me whats wrong or at least say that they do not want to tell me. so then do you consider it harm that people will trust her less? I just think lies tend to get out of control. But I see the temptation people have to lie, to say they did well or have a nice car.
Wraithorn · 51-55, M
@Girlyfriendcollecting I think that people trusting her less would be harmful to her because she will get less co-operation from people. It's not a crime to harm one's self though.
@iamnikki yea me too, but I do not lie about my allergies. she lies about it to everyone and if lets lay one of the people that think she is allergic to it will be in the hospital with her and the doctor asks if she has any new allergies the person with her would say yes this food and then it will be on her medical record. I would just discourage people to lie about these kinds of things.
TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F
celine211 · 22-25, F
Harshly criticize for not liking food?
I mean i don't like a lot of stuff and i'm criticize about it and my family makes jokes on it but harshly? no its ma mouth i choose what goes in it
And i wouldn't pose the moral question on this thing it just isn't big enough of an issue. She can say whatever she wants yeah but its still lying ..but that would stop people from saying "how do you know you don't like it if you don't try it"
I JUST KNOW BITCH!
I mean i don't like a lot of stuff and i'm criticize about it and my family makes jokes on it but harshly? no its ma mouth i choose what goes in it
And i wouldn't pose the moral question on this thing it just isn't big enough of an issue. She can say whatever she wants yeah but its still lying ..but that would stop people from saying "how do you know you don't like it if you don't try it"
I JUST KNOW BITCH!
DonaldTrumpet · 70-79, M
Jibby · 56-60, C
What makes someone knowing a harmful truth have the right to decide someone else shouldn't.. for instance if a liberal government decided what was good or not good for me to say or do. I would definitely have an issue with it. I would definitely be part of any resistance and wouldn't mind chopping off a head or two as examples
RyanVersawOld · M
Those who lie abase the Child. You shall be spanked until you speak truth. I yearn to teach you all that I know in a way no answer will.
Bare your bottom and tell me where we can meet so that I can put you over my knee and paddle you until a stern lecture will answer all of your questions.
I love you
Man
Bare your bottom and tell me where we can meet so that I can put you over my knee and paddle you until a stern lecture will answer all of your questions.
I love you
Man
awebventure · 46-50, M
I lied about having revenge so that I can have the satisfaction of it without the other suffering like I did.
SW-User
Sounds like justifying. A lie is a lie, no?