Am I being childish?

My flatmate and I used to do quite a few things together. Now we have a new flatmate, they are both smokers and they spend a lot of time together. To be honest they are bonding over a really bad habit and I’ve noticed my flatmate smokes a lot more since our new flatmate has come. Hmm.
I just feel a little left out. I’ve noticed that my flatmate doesn’t stay in the room with me like before, nor does she initate much convo. I’ve always been nice to her but her behaviour had changed.

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GlassDog · 46-50, M

When I was a smoker, the non-smokers I socialised with complained often about being left behind while everyone went outside to smoke. When I gave up smoking, I knew exactly what they meant. There is a bond and a camararderie about smoking that I hadn't realised until I gave up. My social life noticeably receded. It's not childish to feel like you do, but it isn't an easy one to deal with.

outsidethebox18 · 31-35, F

Absolutely.... it sucks. @GlassDog

katielass · F

It's understandable. Both that you feel left out and that they are spending time together. They have something in common. If they go outside to smoke how about joining them outside. Don't let your feelings prevent you from joining in the conversation.

sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M

move out before you become victim # lost count in the non small cell lung cancer victims.

you think i'm joking?

try it.

firefall · 61-69, M

Thats kind of how it goes. I'd suggest when they go out to smoke, go with them to be sociable, and make it more a 3-way bond of friendship

outsidethebox18 · 31-35, F

@firefall it’s too awkward and I’d rather not sit in smoke.

SakiSaki · 26-30, M

That;s normal though

outsidethebox18 · 31-35, F

@SakiSaki It is. I suppose this is how my other flatmate felt. Karma.

EllaWatx · 26-30, F

Start smoking then

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