other women not wanting kids?

I never want to have children and yes I know people always say your 23 your still young. I never liked children as a kid I did not play family, I still do not like or want children. I hate how much pressure there is from my family and anyone who meets me to have children. I keep telling them i do not want any, its not a legal requirement to have children. I hate when people say you will change your mind.the thing that really hurts me is that my parents say your takeing away my ability to be a grandparent and continue our bloodline. I do not want to hurt my parents but if i have a child i will be hurting the child because i would be a bad parent. you should not have children unless you really want children. Anyone elce feel like they never want to have children?

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Bean17 · 46-50, F

I really wanted to have kids and then I really did NOT want to have kids and then I had kids.😅 I had decided I did not want to have them because of how f-ed up this life and this world is and I was not wrong. There have been many moments over the course of being a mom for nearly 20 years where I have thought to myself—what the hell have I done??? I love my kids more than life itself but honestly it’s the most stressful, daunting experience ever! If you don’t want kids—don’t have kids!! Like for realz. Everyone else (including your parents) can just kiss your ass. It’s your life—you make the decisions that are best for you! And everyone else will just have to deal.😁

Gangstress · 41-45, F

@Bean17 this is the most honest response I've heard. Lol. 🤗🤗

Girlyfriendcollecting · F

@Bean17 yea, thanks😀 I just wish this feeling of guilt and feeling bad would go away, 😢my parents told me that i am taking away their chance to become grandparents and i am breaking off our bloodline. I keep telling myself kids only effect me and the kid but I feel like i am hurting my parents. I dont want to hurt them but they cant expect children from me thats unfair. if they want a child they can get a child and raise it, but i guess for them its about the blood line. I dont understand why its bothering me so much every time i think about it I tell myself there is nothing to feel bad about your doing nothing wrong but yet the feeling is still there. 😫

Bean17 · 46-50, F

I can understand your feeling guilty about disappointing your parents. And weirdly I can also understand your parent’s disappointment about the possibility of never having grandchildren.😅 But ultimately it’s such a major life decision and commitment to have and to raise children that that pretty much tops everything else. It just is what it is. I hope eventually both you and your parents can make peace with and come to a place of acceptance about your decision. 🤗@Girlyfriendcollecting

Girlyfriendcollecting · F

@Bean17 yea thats good its good to have kids just not for me.