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rhouse · 56-60, M
I have cheated twice and yes I think there is a legit reason. I am not saying it is acceptable but there may be a legit reason.
In both cases, I was geographically separated from my wife and we were having a very difficult time communicating. We would talk on the phone but every time I talked to her she was distracted by life (kids, work, in-laws, etc) I felt I was just an interference in her life.
I found a "friend" who turned into more than a friend.
That is the biggest mistake of my life. What my wife needed was for me to be part of her boring life (kids, work, in-laws, etc.) and what I needed was to close the distance so I could.
Nothing better has happened in my life than my wife forgiving me.
In both cases, I was geographically separated from my wife and we were having a very difficult time communicating. We would talk on the phone but every time I talked to her she was distracted by life (kids, work, in-laws, etc) I felt I was just an interference in her life.
I found a "friend" who turned into more than a friend.
That is the biggest mistake of my life. What my wife needed was for me to be part of her boring life (kids, work, in-laws, etc.) and what I needed was to close the distance so I could.
Nothing better has happened in my life than my wife forgiving me.
rhouse · 56-60, M
I want to say no but honestly I have to admit that if the same situation presented itself, I would want to be with the girl who was interested in me rather than in boring life.
I promise I will try to remember that my wife is why I exist but it would be difficult. God give me the strength.
BTW - We have an open relationship now so if I tell her about my desires she s more willing to accept them but I still have to be part of her boring life. (When I say boring I am talking about the life we both own.)
I hope any of this makes sense. I am not saying that I regret our choices. I am only saying that it is hard to choose between boring (chosen) and exciting (different) life.
I promise I will try to remember that my wife is why I exist but it would be difficult. God give me the strength.
BTW - We have an open relationship now so if I tell her about my desires she s more willing to accept them but I still have to be part of her boring life. (When I say boring I am talking about the life we both own.)
I hope any of this makes sense. I am not saying that I regret our choices. I am only saying that it is hard to choose between boring (chosen) and exciting (different) life.