Is there even a legit reason for cheating?

@Miram isn't reason the same as cause?

Sorry to hear that.. How did you get through it?

@Yoroshii I didn't fully but it doesn't hurt the same anymore. I just stay busy and try not to sink in negativity.

No, causes aren't reasonable always. They are just sequences that dont take away thé responsibility or attempts to justify the act morally.

Reasons would be reasonable and they justify the act and take away accountability.

I don't want to pretend to know you or your SO but in most cases it is because communication has broken down. Both of you are responsible for communication. @Miram

@rhouse Yes, so don't.

Sorry if you thought I was. I am only speaking as the GUILTY party. I have excuses but don't think that they ever justify my actions. I am lucky that my wife forgave me and not sure that I would have done the same. @Miram

@rhouse


I already could sense that you are the guilty party.
There are clear behavioural patterns and similarities. Sharing intimate details of your life won't change the boundaries between us. We are strangers.

The proper thing to do is to talk about your own experience instead of generalisations.

I am talking about my own experiences. In my experiences communication broke down and we were both responsible. You can learn from the mistakes others have made or you can continue your series of failures. @Miram

@rhouse I did learn from my mistakes, that's how I know you would be one of them.

Your first comment was NOT talking about your own experience. It's generalising it.

And neither is this:

"You can continue your series of failures"

Be a man and take responsibility of your mess ups. Don't try to rationalize it. It's pathetic.

Good luck with your next failure.

@rhouse I am not the one who cheats on the wife bécause I am a part of a boring life 🖕 I may have failures in the future and successes too, But you choose to [b]BE[/b] a failure. 🖕

Totally agree. You will have failures. I can tell by your tone.

If you read this thread, you will see that I have accepted that I was guilty and know that the only thing that kept my marriage alive was my wife's ability to forgive me. I am so glad I was married to her and not you. You just sound bitter. I hope that works for you.

People who experience guilt don't wish that they left their wives to be with the person they cheated with, they don't go around telling others that it was their fault, they empathise with their victim. They don't say the victim is to blame and the victim has and gives a boring life.

Take your judgemental attitude and self centeredness and shove them up your behind. You are old and unwise.