Do you actually believe people are into you when they answer more than one question from you?
Lol.
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Andrew19EightyFive · 36-40, M
Sorry.
I can understand if you want to interact and share thoughts and express your creativity on here without such personal assumptions and feelings being involved; if such things are spoiling your experience on here.
It can be easy for people to assume or imagine that such things are there when they're not, notably when much about the different aspects of communications (such as body language) aren't involved--such as over the internet on a social networking site. I think in many instances, people "see" what they choose to see or want to see--or jump to inappropriately or inadequately qualified conclusions based on little evidence (or something that may be interpreted as evidence).
What advise to give...? Maybe it would be helpful if people included explicitly in their headline or on their profile that, for instance, if they answer your questions or interact with you a lot, it does not mean that they're romantically interested--"please do not assume that".
I can imagine that it may be necessary to do such a thing (as more explicitly address the issue) if the precedent has already been set on such a site as this of other people behaving romantically towards one another, doing like things that may easily be interpreted (like a blanket stereotype) to be evidence of similar romantic interest.
I can understand if you want to interact and share thoughts and express your creativity on here without such personal assumptions and feelings being involved; if such things are spoiling your experience on here.
It can be easy for people to assume or imagine that such things are there when they're not, notably when much about the different aspects of communications (such as body language) aren't involved--such as over the internet on a social networking site. I think in many instances, people "see" what they choose to see or want to see--or jump to inappropriately or inadequately qualified conclusions based on little evidence (or something that may be interpreted as evidence).
What advise to give...? Maybe it would be helpful if people included explicitly in their headline or on their profile that, for instance, if they answer your questions or interact with you a lot, it does not mean that they're romantically interested--"please do not assume that".
I can imagine that it may be necessary to do such a thing (as more explicitly address the issue) if the precedent has already been set on such a site as this of other people behaving romantically towards one another, doing like things that may easily be interpreted (like a blanket stereotype) to be evidence of similar romantic interest.
SapphicHeart · F
@Andrew19EightyFive
Maybe we should include every disclaimer of our staying here inside every post/comment we make. Our profiles aren't being read for whatever it counts.
Maybe we should include every disclaimer of our staying here inside every post/comment we make. Our profiles aren't being read for whatever it counts.
Andrew19EightyFive · 36-40, M
@SapphicHeart If a user is romantically interested in another user, s/he is probably going to visit the profile and see the headline or introductory statement.
Even if they don't see it, or it's in the summary and they don't see it, if a romantic interest were mistakenly interpreted, one could refer to such statement and say something like, "I do apologise that you interpreted the situation like this, but I did make my situation in relation to this site explicitly clear--didn't you read it?"
Even if they don't see it, or it's in the summary and they don't see it, if a romantic interest were mistakenly interpreted, one could refer to such statement and say something like, "I do apologise that you interpreted the situation like this, but I did make my situation in relation to this site explicitly clear--didn't you read it?"
SapphicHeart · F
@Andrew19EightyFive
Nobel thought, maybe... but...
1) Why should it be necessary to announce what we aren't into at SW?
2) Even though I've stated clearly that I am lesbian, I'll still get plenty of male accounts trying to get involved with me in such ways not wished for.
I don't get it, why do people who're using this place as intended have to make a lot of efforts to meet the needs of others that won't get it?
Nobel thought, maybe... but...
1) Why should it be necessary to announce what we aren't into at SW?
2) Even though I've stated clearly that I am lesbian, I'll still get plenty of male accounts trying to get involved with me in such ways not wished for.
I don't get it, why do people who're using this place as intended have to make a lot of efforts to meet the needs of others that won't get it?