People feel the neeD to put people in various boxes,(Im sure it's a sign of deep insecurity). I'm always being asked ridiculous questions by this sort of person. If you asked anyone else these personal questions that are highly personal they'd punch them on the nose,but if your a fella in a frock, your fair game.
I don't think being a transformer is wrong, it is not wrong to be something. However it can be wrong to do some things or to require that other people think like you think when they don't.