How to handle this? My brother is only 16 and his girlfriend is 15, the girlfriend is pregnant...

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My brother is only 16 and his girlfriend is 15, the girlfriend is pregnant for two months now. The girl's mother called and told me to go to their house tomorrow to talk about the situitio. I dont know what should I do or say. What are your thoughts...

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Comedyguy · 41-45, M

You have to face it directly! Educate your brother and that girl about Sex and consequences. Without awareness if you raise him, he will do the same in future.

allsfinebime2 · M Best Comment

Talk with them and tell them what they can expect, and the challenges that they will encounter being young parents.

yuki4you · 31-35, F

@allsfinebime2 hey

yuki4you · 31-35, F

@allsfinebime2 how have you been ?

SW-User

You're just going to have to talk about it with her but your brother should be there in the end he is the father and even though they are babies still their lives are going to change very drastically no matter what the outcome is.

ShadyBaby · 61-69, F

it's really important you release that sadness before anything else. Keeping it in will scew the situation. So release the disappointment, the sadness and the despair. Then you will know what to do next. A baby could be the best thing to happen him and you just can't see it yet, so release all the hopes and dreams you had for him and accept this is the way it is..for now

anythingoes477 · M

Time for brother to grow up. If he's old enough to create a child, he's old enough to deal with the consequences. Stay out of it.

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yuki4you · 31-35, F

@anythingoes477 I know and I see he is trying to be the man for his family at such young age. He can't apply for work but he find ways to help his own family with his own ability so I am just like a support when things are too difficult to handle he feed his family with his own ability.

anythingoes477 · M

@yuki4you You sound like you are a rock. Great character and great family values. family....first. That is why I adore Asian women. Values American women DON'T have. Plus you are very attractive--I think. Could I see a better pic of you??

yuki4you · 31-35, F

@anythingoes477 I fall and could not reply to the message. Thank you for tje comments.

newbie · 31-35, F

do you want her to get an abortion?

yuki4you · 31-35, F

@newbie not at all my sister in law gave birth to a cute baby boy and right now we are happy despite of all the odds on our way.

newbie · 31-35, F

@yuki4you well that makes it to late now then. instead we can congratulate you as you're officially an aunty now ;-)

Rhodesianman · 56-60, M

its a bit late to shut the gate after the horse has bolted .They need your support not criticism .As a parent it is time to step up and help the best you can .Their young and will be scared enough they need to know that they can count on you so make sure they can talk to you and relly on you .Take it from a parent that's been there.

Ozdharma · 61-69, M

Tough call but you are strong and it is nt the end of the world for them . They will not be happy but it takes two are you happy that they may live with you. Look toward a good future for them and help them.

yuki4you · 31-35, F

@Ozdharma You are right 😯

MeisterAndrew · 41-45, M

People, it's been 8 months. You expect her to be pregnant for 10 months?

Can I ask what happened though?

yuki4you · 31-35, F

@MeisterAndrew My siste-inlaw gave birth to a healty baby boy last week.

MeisterAndrew · 41-45, M

@yuki4you I'm happy for you.

yuki4you · 31-35, F

@MeisterAndrew 😀

Mondayschild · F

Hmm difficult. Go and do a lot of listening. Find out what she wants. I don't know anything about the legalities here but being straight up and cordial is the only way. No one is to blame.

SW-User

I can see that this is important... but maybe it's better to meet somewhere more neutral, that's not her house. You know this situation better so only you can decide.

yuki4you · 31-35, F

@SW-User I did the right decision after all.

looking4thesun · M

are you sure it is his baby?

yuki4you · 31-35, F

@looking4thesun yes😀 the baby just look like my younger brother lol

looking4thesun · M

@yuki4you well I guess that makes you sort of an aunt or grandma :)

yuki4you · 31-35, F

Haha I am an aunt now. Do I look like a grandma already?

courtney0380 · 36-40, F

Had to deal with the same thing with my stepson

yuki4you · 31-35, F

@courtney0380 i feel you, it's not easy.

yuki4you · 31-35, F

I appreciated your thoughts and opinion everyone, thank you!!!

SW-User

Go and try your best, what else can you do?

TexChik · F

It's clear niether of them are prepared or responsible enough to parent a child while being children themselves . What is in the interest of the unborn child is the most important issue. Then dealing with your brother and his girlfriend are next . Finishing school and preventing any further pregnancies seems like a good idea .

MURD3RM0NK3Y · 26-30, M

Go talk about it. What else can you do

crimsonknight · 26-30, M

Why aren't you replying??

Quimliqer · 70-79, M

If you have been the caregiver, your opinion matters, go talk. Remember you have parents that should have been involved in raising you both, this is not your fault..

SW-User

Wow your brother is stupid. He doesn't know to wrap it up? 🙄 But like others said, all you can do is offer support and be there for him.

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nevergiveup · M

what country are you in

yuki4you · 31-35, F

@nevergiveup the Philippines.

nevergiveup · M

@yuki4you always the way. To far for me to visit

yuki4you · 31-35, F

@nevergiveup Yes it is I'm on the other side of the Globe😎

Orchid · 51-55, F

Don't be sad it is no reflection on you

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