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Men, explain to me your silence

In my mind, I have already vented out my frustration and feel like dying.

But at least, he responded.

(Context: 5-month-old friendship. We've been open to each in talking about a lot of things. Am not used to his silence.)

BlueVeins · 22-25 Best Comment
Usually when I'm non-responsive like this, it's because I'm feeling overwhelmed, be it due to outside circumstances or because the person I'm talking to is kinda smothering me. In my subjective experience, a lot of women -- not all -- take it personally and get offended when I express my feelings and needs to them, which then makes me not want to communicate them at all. I know that's a flaw on my end and I'm working on it, but it's something worth reflecting on.

Of course, it's also possible that he's just plain old old inattentive and bad at communicating. Or he doesn't like texting. Doesn't hurt to ask.

Quetzalcoatlus · 46-50, M
He’s not into you..
JimboSaturn · 51-55, M
@Quetzalcoatlus I'm afraid I agree.
Carissimi · 61-69, F
You need to back off. He’s creating distance, and the worst thing you can do is what you are doing in these texts. Give him his space, and if he comes back, tell him to F off. Not in words, of course, but by your actions of treating him in kind. It hurts, but let him go, and keep your dignity. {hugs}
Ladywolf · 31-35, F
I also wish men would just talk, they just ghost, so frustrating! You’re not interested, great, say so, got back together with your ex, fine, but say something!!
Dying? 🤔 It means there’s lots on his mind or he’s not interested in frequent communication
IamCuriousBabe · 51-55, F
@BeefySenpie I know he does have a lot. Been a few weeks.

It's just that I had that experience with someone a few years ago where he totally ghosted after some time.
He's going through sht and doesn't want to talk about it. When I'm going through depression or hard times the last thing I want to do is have a conversation over text. Wait until nighttime after he's had coffee and whatever else wakes his soul and then call him and ask, what's up with you?
Simple is that when you are not in love or friendship with someone but like sex ...and then you suddenly start battling your demons and or absorded in other things , or your drive nosedive for some reason
Wolffy · 51-55, M
Sometimes we're shy sometimes we don't know what to say sometimes we're intimidated by such a strong confident intelligent woman we just don't know what in response
StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M
Whatever the issue with him, five months isn’t a long time you have invested in that friendship.
LookingIn · M
Sorry to say, but silence means that you’re not a priority.
Time to move on.
calicuz · 51-55, M
Maybe the novelty has worn off and he's ready to move on. 🤷‍♂️
JimboSaturn · 51-55, M
Hate that cryptic shit.
Magenta · F
@JimboSaturn Me too! It enrages me. Grow some....
ineedadrink · 51-55, M
Give him some space but start bracing yourself for bad news. Maybe he'll process whatever is on his mind then tell you about it, hopefully.
IamCuriousBabe · 51-55, F
@ineedadrink I have seen this happen before. Read something about it a while ago just to feel a bit better and not personalize it so much.
Steve42 · 56-60, M
He's just letting you know he's not a simp.
mindless · M
tk9999 · 41-45, M
You're not the center of his universe (should you be?)

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