I can’t breathe my wife suddenly left with my children 700 miles away

@Quimliqer it’s definitely not easy for sure. There’s good moments then there’s those all alone and all alone in your own head that’s the bad place that can really take you down the wrong road.

@Ryan1417 I hear you and yes, those lonely quiet times can be devastating!!
I kept two diaries, one of things I thought that would bring pain, the other I’d thoughts that were pleasant!! Over time I was able to go through the “bad” book without causing emotional distress.
Like you, she just left without giving a reason.

@Quimliqer well the reason she left… I had a bad weird feeling for some time. I decided to look through her phone. She had the dating icon on her facebook page so I asked her why that was on her shortcuts. Never got the chance to see if she had a profile she took her phone. At that point im pretty alert and suspicious. She lays down in our bed for an hour gets up in a panic says god awful things and leaves and I haven’t seen my kids since. I guess I could have handled it better if it wasn’t such a traumatic experience I guess. I’m honestly still in shock my house hasn’t been touched just not moving forward yet.

@Ryan1417 Obviously she has secrets she doesn’t want to face.
Focus on dialogue if possible and working on your relationship.

@Quimliqer I know there’s a lot I don’t know about her. I think it’s been over for a long time. We had no sex life for years before this. No intimacy I really don’t feel anything one way or the other towards her and each day that passes I resent her more and more. I honestly want to find the best lawyer I can and take my kids I feel like in this situation they should be with me but I’m extremely biased as they are my kids. Every child needs their mother. Stuck between a rock and hard place. But I know I’m not the first or last man to deal with this. Just the perception from the mainstream is dads are deadbeat and don’t care right ?

@Ryan1417 If you’re going for a legal outcome, find a lawyer that’s practicing negotiated settlements, not a court decision. The courts will always take the women’s side.

@Quimliqer I already know this. The state I live in is the world’s worst. I’ve seen drug addicted mothers still gain full custody of their kids. People in my family so first hand experience it’s crazy how little rights a man actually has when you start having problems and need the justice system to work for you. It doesn’t ever.

@Ryan1417 Go wisely!!

@Ryan1417 My lawyer asked me first thing, what do you want? Of course I wanted revenge and laid it on the line. Then the lawyer asked me “if the shoe was on the other foot, what would you want?
Focus on what is fair and equitable for both you and her, keeping the kids in mind!

@Quimliqer Good lawyer. He asked the right questions.