Have you ever had a place you wanna go to, but then you don't really know who to ask to go with you? It's... Idk. Is this really part of adulting?

Is this normal?
Or is this a me thing?
Sometimes, I wonder.
I could probably ask people... but I don't for reasons. I also can't think of someone I'd feel really happy to go with. I mean, there are a few and we'd probably have fun, but...I just think that if they wanna spend time with me, then they'd be asking too. And I don't want the pressure of having to pay for other's expenses. It's kinda... it doesn't always feel good that you have to pay for the people you hang out with. As for those others that could pay for themselves, there's this hesitation that makes me not ask. Like, maybe they have people they'd rather spend time with. I don't know.
That, and other reasons, depending on the person concerned.
Maybe it's just me overthinking things.

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CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

I've always been like that. I always feel selfish that I only want some company to not be alone and feel either unsafe or awkward instead of being with them specifically. I especially would love to go hiking but I don't dare to go alone and I have nobody to ask to go with me.

Casheyane · 31-35, F

@CrazyMusicLover Yeah. I hear you.
For hiking, I think there are tour groups you can sign up to.

In my case, I wanna go swimming. Not sure where yet. I'm thinking to go alone or with a friend, but honestly, I don't feel safe going to a public pool. If ever, I'm considering renting a private one as an option.

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

@Casheyane I went swimming alone several times before pandemic, even without a locker so I left my stuff on a towel while I was swimming. 😅 Although I didn't bring my phone with me. Only an old mp3 player and a small sum of money so I could pay entrance fee and maybe some drink/food inside.