I just had a tiny revelation 🤔

And it's not so much that I didn''t know it ....but more like I never had a way to express it.

To me socializing and all it entails, should be ... fun, engaging ... connecting and sharing,...and helping .

But it's not .

It's a game.

I now understand that , and I try my best to play it properly.



The thing is:
I understand you have to get the ball in the hoop.
I understand that there are rules of conduct to the field players, and to who has the ball .
And don't step over the boundary line .

And I follow those rules.


What I don't realize is the strategy and sneaky modes of play, hidden fouls so to speak .

It's like I play for fun....but others are playing to win .

And that's the part I don't get .

Like ....what do you get when you win?
And what if you have to play dirty to get it - is it still a win ?

Surely the win is the fun you get when you play ?
When everyone is not strategizing but just playing freely ....by equal rules ?

I mean, what is a trophy when others might secretly resent you for it? Coz you hurt and benched other players to get it 🤷
Or is it the fact that their strategies that got the win ....are the actual win ?🤔

Anyone else relate to this ?