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dancingtongue · 80-89, M
Oh, that reality can intrude more than once in your life. I have had two long-term relationships, living together. Buried both. I may not be alone--one or both of the two cats may be on the right side of the door--but unless I am moved into assisted living, or my sons make other arrangements, I am likely to be alone. A fact of life. Er, the alternative to life is more accurate, I guess.
HoeBag · 51-55, F
Yeah when we are young, we think we long for love, connection etc.
It is just feeling h0rny, nothing more.
Once we get a bit older and the h0rmones settle way down, we barely think of wanting to be with someone.
Once in a while we think about it but then come to our senses.
I know and have seen how love-sick people act and think. It can get b*zarre but worry not, the older you get, the less you will care. That might not help right now, but just know it won't always be troubling you.
It is just feeling h0rny, nothing more.
Once we get a bit older and the h0rmones settle way down, we barely think of wanting to be with someone.
Once in a while we think about it but then come to our senses.
I know and have seen how love-sick people act and think. It can get b*zarre but worry not, the older you get, the less you will care. That might not help right now, but just know it won't always be troubling you.
Movingthegoalpost · 26-30, M
@HoeBag I don't know, I think it varies person to person because it's only troubled me more as I've gotten older. Age has only brought more regret and fomo
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Movingthegoalpost · 26-30, M
@HoeBag I mean you can't predict how others may feel. I genuinely don't think mine will settle. It only haunts me day by day year by year. It has not gotten better. I think you're coping a little bit and that's fine, everyone has their own way of dealing with singlehood but that doesn't necessarily mean everyone else will feel the same affects. I disagree that it turns platonic. That's a huge generalization and the ones that turn out like that are usually the sexless marriages where not to specify gender but usually where a woman got with a guy they weren't actually physically attracted to but got with him for stability and to share the financial burden with. A normal healthy relationship doesn't have these problems. A relationship is far from perfect and it definitely has its own problems but life is not meant to be done alone. Anything else is just cope. Also hormones has nothing to do with it because my sex drive has zero to do with my desire for a relationship. It's companionship that I miss, not how horny I am. This isn't some raging teenage hormone talk. This is coming from some where deep and primal at least for me and yes I def have been in a serious relationship
Just curious what brought about the change, if it was the realization of dying alone. And I don’t mean this in a sarcastic way, only an attempt to understand.
https://similarworlds.com/mental-issues/depression-anxiety/5290604-I-dont-see-loneliness-as-a-bad-thing-anymore
https://similarworlds.com/mental-issues/depression-anxiety/5290604-I-dont-see-loneliness-as-a-bad-thing-anymore
Movingthegoalpost · 26-30, M
@OlderSometimesWiser Well I see it like this. I understand you're referencing my older post and I still don't...but I can compartmentalize things. I can be okay being alone but it doesn't mean I won't ever feel the affects of being lonely. I'm a human, our emotions fluctuate, our state of mind isn't stagnate like a robot. I'm not being sarcastic either when I say that. We move up and down. So even though I still agree with the general message of that older post, and trust me there are days in fact where I realize I am also better off alone, I still have days, moments, where I have this realization and it does get to me
@Movingthegoalpost Fair enough. Thanks for the clarification. 🙂
Yea its true. If you don't pair up before 40 I can tell you first hand it gets tough to find anyone you are even attracted to enough to date.
I am saying this as a guy too not as a typical choosey bish.
So if you see someone you can remotely tolerate before then. Think long and hard before you write them off if you want to get paired up. They dont last on the open market for long. Not even the ugly ones.
I am saying this as a guy too not as a typical choosey bish.
So if you see someone you can remotely tolerate before then. Think long and hard before you write them off if you want to get paired up. They dont last on the open market for long. Not even the ugly ones.
Movingthegoalpost · 26-30, M
@unsociableAnthony Trust me my standards are not high at all, probably even too low. It is what it is
MayorOfCrushtown · M
when i used to say i would be okay being alone, the universe would step in and say "Nope, sorry".......
sometimes, its a good thing, sometimes not.
sometimes, its a good thing, sometimes not.
MayorOfCrushtown · M
@Movingthegoalpost i think the soul does crave a connection.
Movingthegoalpost · 26-30, M
@MayorOfCrushtown There is no think. I KNOW we do. It's just something we can't fight. It's in our biological nature. It's coded in our DNA to want this. It's in our bones
Magicianzini · M
@Movingthegoalpost Life can change this. Give it time.