Something I've recently been thinking about

Not in a sob story kind of way but I had a deep realization that there is a real possibility that I die alone. With the way things are set up today, I think a good chunk of people will. Obviously there are still people entering in and out of relationships and marriages but the numbers and stats don't lie for a reason. Marriage rates, relationships rates, birth dates are all steadily declining at least in comparison to before. For those of you in happy relationships, savor it because some of us will never taste it again. For those who say be okay being alone, I am...it doesn't mean my biological wiring of wanting companionship doesn't show up from time to time

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HoeBag · 51-55, F

Yeah when we are young, we think we long for love, connection etc.
It is just feeling h0rny, nothing more.

Once we get a bit older and the h0rmones settle way down, we barely think of wanting to be with someone.
Once in a while we think about it but then come to our senses.

I know and have seen how love-sick people act and think. It can get b*zarre but worry not, the older you get, the less you will care. That might not help right now, but just know it won't always be troubling you.

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Movingthegoalpost · 26-30, M

@HoeBag I don't know, I think it varies person to person because it's only troubled me more as I've gotten older. Age has only brought more regret and fomo

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Movingthegoalpost · 26-30, M

@HoeBag I mean you can't predict how others may feel. I genuinely don't think mine will settle. It only haunts me day by day year by year. It has not gotten better. I think you're coping a little bit and that's fine, everyone has their own way of dealing with singlehood but that doesn't necessarily mean everyone else will feel the same affects. I disagree that it turns platonic. That's a huge generalization and the ones that turn out like that are usually the sexless marriages where not to specify gender but usually where a woman got with a guy they weren't actually physically attracted to but got with him for stability and to share the financial burden with. A normal healthy relationship doesn't have these problems. A relationship is far from perfect and it definitely has its own problems but life is not meant to be done alone. Anything else is just cope. Also hormones has nothing to do with it because my sex drive has zero to do with my desire for a relationship. It's companionship that I miss, not how horny I am. This isn't some raging teenage hormone talk. This is coming from some where deep and primal at least for me and yes I def have been in a serious relationship