How do you deal with envy? And for what reasons do you feel that way? What is it that they have that makes you feel that way?

@OogieBoogie For me, I think it is important that I dig deep into my feelings so I can understand myself better. Like, why do I feel this way? It's important for me to listen to myself. My feelings are valid. But how I deal and what I do with them...that will determine who I am and what I am becoming, so I have to keep monitoring.

Personally, I find myself envious of those with complete family who support and have each other. I lost my dad. Not good reason enough. But sometimes, looking at others' lives makes me think of what ifs...what could I achieve in the what ifs...

I know jealousy is something embarrassing to talk about. But I hope you won't be afraid to face it.

Perhaps there are things we can do about them. Tbh, for mine, I do not know yet much but I am trying to give them to God.

I was doing devo a while ago and read of Jonah. Jonah, in his anger, told God he'd rather die than not have what he prophetized about come true. But God, in His mercy, just gave him a question.

I am still figuring out how to apply them and what it should mean to me haha.

@Casheyane I don't find jealousy hard to talk about at all . I openly admit to people if I feel envious of something they have achieved or whatever .
I accept my feelings, but then I let them go .

Searching for values about oneself from without is, I don't think, the what way to know oneself. Especially this way : you are focusing on what you don't have, as opposed to what you do .

Also, jealousy is different from envy .
I think what you're talking about is envy.

Jealousy is when you are afraid someone will take something from you (say- a husband, or a position at work).

Envy is when you want what others have.

Dwelling on why you envy what others have and you don't isn't complex - you think it's desirable.
The thing is, is that it's all surface stuff .
It seems desirable, but is it ?

Someone may have a nice house, or happy family or whatever ....but there's a lot going on underneath to not only achieve that ...but keep it .
Everything has a price .

Are you willing, (or able), to pay that price or make that sacrifice?

And just coz they have something, doesn't mean that something is perfect for you.

You build on what you have. You find your own desires, your own wants, in your own abilities and priorities .
There is an all important process to growth:
You can't jump the gun. You have to take steps to build the path to your achievements.

And that's not including all the unforeseen stuff like opportunity ....who you know ....where you live ...culture .
It's very complex .

It's all well and good to want something, but focusing on the envy isn't going to get you anywhere but sad or mad.🤷

@OogieBoogie Oh. In my experience, those two words are used interchangeably. I see some others think differently.

Thanks for the insight.

@Casheyane o used to think they meant the same thing .
But someone corrected me on it a while back .

I can't believe that I've been using the word jealousy wrong for like 30 years 😂