I Am Confused About My Feelings

Every time when I want to visit my parents my girlfriend will come up with an excuse for not going with me then at the last minute when it is time for me to leave she all of a sudden wants to go. This happens all the time! It causes fights and she won’t talk to me about it.

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Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

Maybe she feels intimidated by your folks.
Maybe she'd rather stay home but then realises how bad that looks if she never goes.
So puts herself through a panic before deciding to go with you.

JS1992 · 31-35, M

How do I help her? @Picklebobble2

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

@JS1992 Well,it's kinda complicated.
You know how us fellas just tend to go with the flow ?
We may not always get on with our 'outlaws' but we try not to let it get to us if we have to spend time in each others company ?
Well some women think totally differently when it comes to that situ in reverse !
Female partners often feel they are being judged. Especially by their partners Mothers !
After all,i'm pretty sure most Mothers wouldn't be happy no matter WHO their Son was dating/in a relationship with !
Because in their eyes no woman could ever be good enough !
Talk to her about it. See what she says.

JS1992 · 31-35, M

Thanks so much. I will have to talk to her about it @Picklebobble2

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

@JS1992 Try not to worry. Sounds kinda normal tbh !
Lot of folk go through it.
I suspect it's a kind of 'test' mothers put their child's 'chosen one' through.

JS1992 · 31-35, M

Yah I am my moms only son so I get why my gf has the anxiety. But her not wanting to see my parents is making them feel bad. @Picklebobble2

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

@JS1992 lol. Best talk to them too then !