MikeyFromTexas · 26-30, M
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I am so very sorry to hear about what is happening with your relationship. Unfortunately I have never been in a serious relationship so I cannot help you much although I wish I could.
It is good that you go to church and hold on to your faith. While this world can be a cold and depressing place, you should remember that when your time on this earth is done you will spend the rest of all time in paradise (heaven).
Perhaps couples therapy could provide some solace if your husband would agree to go. I seriously hope that life gets better for you. You clearly care a lot about your family and you deserve much better.
God be with you & good luck with your troubles.
I am so very sorry to hear about what is happening with your relationship. Unfortunately I have never been in a serious relationship so I cannot help you much although I wish I could.
It is good that you go to church and hold on to your faith. While this world can be a cold and depressing place, you should remember that when your time on this earth is done you will spend the rest of all time in paradise (heaven).
Perhaps couples therapy could provide some solace if your husband would agree to go. I seriously hope that life gets better for you. You clearly care a lot about your family and you deserve much better.
God be with you & good luck with your troubles.
Wolfdancer · 56-60, F
Get out. Be happy. Life is too short and geez you're so young yet. Sometimes people outgrow one another. sometimes too much has happened for us to feel the same about them. Please dont stay because of the kids. If he's an adult enough & changed man, then you two can co-parent. No this isn't how life is suppose to be. You are the CEO of your life. You don't like it Change it. What you allow will continue. When the pain of staying becomes greater than the pain/fear of leaving you will make a decision. The fact that you have been with him since you were still a kid tells me you have never gotten the chance to be yourself. GO!! Be You and blossom!
iamnikki · 31-35, F
@Wolfdancer BA
iamnikki · 31-35, F
Doesn't sound like a good man to me, especially the physical abuse part. Why did you stay so long? Kids can sense when parent(s) aren't happy so i don't think you're doing them a favor. Your story sounds like my moms, aside from the abuse part.
And my mom also calls my dad a 'good man'
And my mom also calls my dad a 'good man'
SW-User
If your kids were older... what would you tell them to do in this situation???
You would want them happy and fulfilled. You wouldn't want them to settle or stay in an unhealthy situation for the wrong reasons.
Think about that....and then do that for yourself.
🤗good luck to you🤗
You would want them happy and fulfilled. You wouldn't want them to settle or stay in an unhealthy situation for the wrong reasons.
Think about that....and then do that for yourself.
🤗good luck to you🤗
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Wayne91 · 31-35, M
Your separation could affect your kids. One of you should change the course of action. It is more like a math. Every problem has a solution.... and it’s all about deriving that solution. May be finding out the root cause might help.
melmouthfulls · 51-55, F
It could be worse or it could be a whole lot better. You'll never know if you stay.