I’m venting my thoughts, I don’t expect this to make sense. My bf loves me very much, says...

soulrespite ·

How old was the cousin and how long have you been dating?

Also.. Why did he tell you?

TryingtoLava

Like i told you last night leave him asap

jackrabbit10 · M

what happen 10 years ago is water under the bridge,

BlueVeins · 26-30

IDK. If they were both consenting adults (or close enough to call), I feel like to some extent it's a case of no harm no foul. Like sure it's odd, but it was 10 years ago and he's clearly into you.

caccoon · 36-40

If you don't want to marry him, then don't. Save yourself the headache

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

First.. Nothing he did before you met should be held against him..So there is that. But if this is a deep gut conviction you cant get past, then you have no choice but to pack and leave. Its not like its going to go away.. Frankly, if I had a skeleton like that, I would take it to my grave. Its my guilt to live with.. 😷

cherny

Leave immediately

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uncalled4 · 56-60, M

Everyone has their own comfort level with issues like this. I can't recommend what to do, but here's what I would consider:
1. He could have kept it from you.
2. He wanted you to know.
3. He sounds like he is very ashamed of it.
4. We all did stupid shit in our teens/early 20s. That's not an excuse, but it's the truth.
5. He should probably be in therapy to work it out. In your case, probably both of you.

iwishuwerehere · 61-69, M

You really need to find somewhere to put those feelings & forget that he told you that.
I know you think that doing his cousin is sick af but we all dumb stuff when we are young. Maybe you don’t have any regrets in your past but most people do. Let it go.
Don’t ruin your whole life because he did some dumb kid shit.

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

I'd be out so fast. I don't think this is a sign of a normal family. Also, this might sound weird but they were 18...not younger, not kids doing stupid stuff because they had some stupid ideas that some kids have and later regret.

JimboSaturn · 56-60, M

I don't know why he would think of her when he is with you. That goes for any past relationship cousin or not, just because they been with someone else in the past doesn't mean they don't love you now.

JPWhoo · 36-40, M

I’m sorry it’s bugging you. I don’t think it should be that big of a deal. It’s over, and if he still wanted one of his cousins he probably would have made a move sometime in the last ten years.

Jexie · 26-30, F

Go to some third world countries and every other person is married to their cousin. It shouldn't be promoted but it's not a big deal

Munumbis · 46-50, M

I've seen a lot of red neck or third world types do shit like that. Dump him if you want.