Another thing I ponder a lot is how so many people want things, but the stuff they do to get it is not compatible with the results they seek.
The dynamic behind that is intriguing; I think we all find ourselves in that situation every once in a while, so it would be nice to dissect it so as to become able to recognize it when it occurs and break out of the loop.
One noteable time I can remember being in this situation was when I was in 5th grade I decided I wanted to get built; real muscular. But at the time the only kind of working out I had been introduced to was running.
So I ran and ran but no matter how much I ran my body wouldnt take the shape I was going for.
The factor that influenced this particular instance was ignorance; I just didn't know how to get what I was after so I did what I [i]did[/i] know. What I had been introduced to.
I suspect that something similar is the case for people who find themselves in jams where what they want, what they are doing, and what they are getting, don't line up.
Although in certain cases such as relationship goals, sex goals, artistic endeavors,financial goals, or career goals, I'm willing to bet that a factor that makes people very reluctant to change tactics is the amount of effort and time they have expended doing what they have been doing; they may feel too invested in their fruitless effort to actually acknowledge it's fruitlessness and try a new route.
One noteable time I can remember being in this situation was when I was in 5th grade I decided I wanted to get built; real muscular. But at the time the only kind of working out I had been introduced to was running.
So I ran and ran but no matter how much I ran my body wouldnt take the shape I was going for.
The factor that influenced this particular instance was ignorance; I just didn't know how to get what I was after so I did what I [i]did[/i] know. What I had been introduced to.
I suspect that something similar is the case for people who find themselves in jams where what they want, what they are doing, and what they are getting, don't line up.
Although in certain cases such as relationship goals, sex goals, artistic endeavors,financial goals, or career goals, I'm willing to bet that a factor that makes people very reluctant to change tactics is the amount of effort and time they have expended doing what they have been doing; they may feel too invested in their fruitless effort to actually acknowledge it's fruitlessness and try a new route.
