Im going to regurgitate something I told my ex, (not exactly verbatim but as close to that as I can manage) and I'd like to know if I was insensitive.

"I understand that you are the kind of person who needs a lot of attention from your partner, and I know that you know that I do my best to accommodate that, but when I am focusing intently on tasks I need you to just make do with the amount of attention I have to give at that moment. Okay? Even if that amount is zero or close to it.

I know that sounds bad when I say it like that but im not good at mincing words and with you I shouldn't have to...What i am asking you to do, I do for you in return. You just don't notice because I'm not a needy person. When you are focusing on your business or your school work or your job I am fine with you not paying attention to me, and that is all im trying to get from you

I understand that, generally, I am more busy than you are. I apologize for that. But that is just the way my life is at this time and to be fair you seem to enjoy the things that come along with that, right? You like that I am stable and independent don't you? Well, that is what it takes to keep it that way and to secure a future where I remain so and with excess to boot..."


Was I fair or unfair?