Thoughts on “attachment”??

As I’m meeting so many people lately who are usually gone from my life within a short period, I’m noticing a trend. Everyone keeps talking about not forming attachments. As if it’s some spiritual endeavor to not get close to others. I think it’s a cop out. I think people can’t form emotional bonds because they won’t deal with their feelings. I understand it’s hard to be a giver, I struggle with that big time. But humans aren’t built to do everything alone. It’s proven that we die early without connections and support.

In this age of needing to connect so desperately, why are we trying to convince ourselves that loving someone unconditionally is the prison? Love is the key, not the cage. Love can be healthy.

I just really don’t understand anymore 😆

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CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

Do you mean that people deliberately try to avoid spending more time with others in order to prevent forming an attachment with them?

RebelFox · 36-40, F

@CrazyMusicLover yes, they don’t want feelings, they don’t want to bond, don’t want to be friends, it just feels like nothing.

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

@RebelFox Do they already start their interaction with a new person with such preamble? I find it pretty weird, tbh. The way I see it is that if somebody makes an impact on someone else's life they will stay there forever, no matter if they are physically gone. Why would someone want to prevent that? That's just how life works. You meet a person and if you feel good around them you want to be more with them, share nice experiences, collect memories and see where it all will go. Just going with the flow. Sometimes you're lucky enough to be with them for longer, other time not but nobody can take away nice memories. There's no prescribed scheme for people how much time they need to spend with another person to feel that impact or create some form of attachment.
Isn't their problem rather that they want to treat people as their property that must stay in their life "forever" in order for them to see their value? To me it seems a lot of people see it that way.