There is definitely a lot of irrational thought that goes into this but

A part of why I have never been interested in going out for random dates is because I would always be thinking this person in front of me could be a pedophile or anything shitty really, and I am here supporting a facade where they get to appear as normal.

So I have always wanted to be friends first and explore their flaws and analyze them from that standing before ever getting involved romantically.

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Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

I always found it more natural to get to know someone first, it's just the way modern dating is I think that changes that dynamic. It's not like we're naturally meeting people as much as we perhaps once did before the 2000s.

If you don't join activities or groups you're kinda stuck with who you meet at work or in your friend circles, and in my experience most people at my age are already couples when they come to hang out. Online as well but while I've met some fantastic special people, probability is that we're too far away anyway, I had to end a relationship with an extremely compatible person because of this and it sucked.

Miram · 31-35, F

@Ryannnnnn I remember that happening a while back and how hurt you were but it was a wise decision considering all the variables at play.

Finding your person is so challenging