There is definitely a lot of irrational thought that goes into this but

A part of why I have never been interested in going out for random dates is because I would always be thinking this person in front of me could be a pedophile or anything shitty really, and I am here supporting a facade where they get to appear as normal.

So I have always wanted to be friends first and explore their flaws and analyze them from that standing before ever getting involved romantically.

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CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

Understandable. For me it has always felt like being a cow "taken" to the market to find a proper inseminator. It's just way too awkward to arrange a meeting with someone with that clear purpose in mind - to see if another person is fuckable and if you're fuckable to them. Because let's be honest...there's no other way how dates were presented to me for my entire life. That's why I never see any meeting as a date. It's a meeting to find out whether we can be friends at all in the first place.
I never said I was normal. 😇

Miram · 31-35, F

@CrazyMusicLover sounds healthier to me.