When did you start standing up to your parents? [I Love to Hear Thoughts And Opinions of Others]

I am 31 and still live my parents. They are very religious and strict. I will be moving out within the next few months.

As a guy I have natural curly hair.

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My parents hate it, they want me to get something like this

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That is not my style at all. I am planning to get something like this.

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If I do they will complain like crazy. Plus my mom will start crying, praying and preaching. I am not trying to hear their mouth. I have respected them all my life. It's time for me to stand my ground. I am sick and tired of living such a safe and obedient life.

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Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

If all they have to complain about is the style of your hair......what do they imagine it represents ?
If they have no complaints over how you conduct yourself.
If they have no complaint about your lifestyle choices.
If they have no complaint over things you’re involved with......you have to wonder why the fuss

kydflash · 31-35, M

@Picklebobble2 Well said, one thing I have realized is they don't care themselves, they just care about what other people will say. Especially in my church. People there are very judgmental.

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

@kydflash UGH ! Excuse my’French’ but church people are the most tyrannical obsessives on the planet !

Not even about your behaviour being. ‘offensive to God’ it’s about how your folks are perceived by their overly judgmental congregation who would rather act as Judge and jury in their tiny minds than actually get off their high horses and do something valuable for their community !

Sorry. Bit of a rant 😄
Can’t stand people who pretend to be one thing for strangers and take it out on their own !
It’s not right !

kydflash · 31-35, M

@Picklebobble2 No need to apologize, you are 100% right. most christians forget the bible says judge not for ye shall be judged. I tell people appearances don't mean anything. A person can have piercings and tattoos and still be a good person.

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

@kydflash You have my sympathy but for my two cents, the more you attempt to comply with unreasonable behaviour the crazier it will make you !!

Be your own man !
I’m pretty sure that will be worth more in the long term

kydflash · 31-35, M

@Picklebobble2 Very true, I most definitely have to be my own man and stand up for myself. Can't let them dictate my life anymore.