My therapist

So at my appointment today my therapist said he thought it would be a good idea to have Joel join us for my next session. I wasn't sure what to say. Joel and I are very open. We talk about everything. I don't hold back or hide the crazy in my head. He doesn't either. He tells me his fear, everything. I have seen other couples sit in the same room and not talk for hours and stare at their phones. We don't do that. After the kids are in bed we get our drinks, our cigars are we talk. He tells me when he's had a bad day, a good day or a boring day. I do the same. Some nights we laugh, some nights we cry and some nights it's just calm. It's good. Really good. I tell him everything I say in my sessions. He's seen me at my worst and I've seen him at his worst. So I'm just not sure why my therapist suggested it. I'm not opposed to it. I'm just confused.

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hartfire · 61-69

I've never had a therapist ask to meet my partner unless it's for couple counselling, in which case, they might want to see us separately sometimes, and together mostly.

Maybe your therapist just wants to get a feel for the kind of person your partner is.

You could always ask him why; might make for an interesting conversation.

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hartfire · 61-69

@Cigarguy101 It's tragic that your family doctor was so ignorant and didn't think to send you to a specialist.
I imagine that kind of treatment would have left you with a feeling of shame about the tics, even though you know they are not within your control and none of it is your fault. You know your mother's behaviour was based on ignorance, seriously mistaken. Haeve you discussed it with her?

Is it necessary to eat at a table? What kinds of difference would it make to your life if you could do it comfortably?

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@hartfire I don't have much contact with my mother any more.

As for dinner not it's not necessary 100% all the time. I guess it's just the old school way of thinking a family should eat at the table. Lol We are doing many picnic style meals now. But there are some meals like soup, chili, stews that have to be eaten at the table because of messes. And of course when we eat out causes lots of issues. It's a work in progress. We're trying to find what works best for the kids and me. Kinda like trail and error. I am drinking meal replacement daily and eating as I cook.

hartfire · 61-69

@Cigarguy101 It sounds like you're finding your way and all will work out well.

4meAndyou · F

Your therapist is not privy to all of your private sharing with Joel, so perhaps he wants to see your dynamic for himself. It's also possible that he wants Joel to play a part in your treatment? Perhaps he has some suggestions he wants to give directly to Joel.