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My mom wants me to go to therapy what should I do?

I am really tried of my family. My parents are divorced and I have trouble at my dads house because of his drinking issues but now my mom want me to talk to a therapist about this and I know it not healthy to keep it in but that is what I have did for my whole life and now everyone is starting to care about it and I just want to keep it to myself because I think everyone will judge me, put it of ,or say oh mine is so much worse. I have also done therapy before but it did nothing it just made me avoid my parents. I am so tired of this, what should I do?
Penny · 46-50, F
dont let them force you to do anything you dont want to do. i honestly think therapy is invasive and not helpful at all for myself personally. thats what true friends are for or physician heal thyself you know. but if you think baring your soul to a complete stranger is going to help your feelings then go ahead and go to it. that can be helpful too i guess in some cases. as far as people judging you, if they judge you and that pushes them away then theyre not good friends and good riddance.
If your Mum is willing to pay for it, I'd accept the opportunity.
It doesn't mean anything is wrong with you.
Counselling is extremely expensive and quite a luxury -
at the very least it's the chance to talk about your grievances
to someone who won't judge you.

There are many kinds of therapy. All are forms of personal growth.
You could research the various types and see if any appeal to you.
One place to research is the free online magazine. Psychology Today.

Some therapists are ineffective; some are nearing burnout.

If you feel empathy from the counsellor and a sense of rapport by the end of the first session, then that's the person to see. If you don't, be patient and see others until you find one with whom you click.

A counsellor can help give you some coping strategies,
and find a way to deal with the difficult emotions that inevitably arise
when living with a drinker.

Another alternative is attending CoDA (Codependents An, onymous) or Al-Anon. These are 12-step programs, free to attend, run by volunteers, and almost everywhere. You could find your nearest group online.
It can be a way to talk about things without any judgement from others,
and can provide a pathway to personal growth.

If you can find a way to move out,
perhaps into a rented share house with other young singles,
that would be ideal.
fakable · T
you need to get proof of the adequacy of your mother's opinion. to do this, she has to give you a mental health certificate.

however, in order for such a certificate to be considered a legitimate document, you need to have the doctor who issued the certificate also provide you with a certificate of his sanity.

i'm sorry, but it's a never-ending process...
iamBen · M
My experience is that therapy can be good for some and not for others. You need to feel open to it for it to be useful. As you aren't, it's likely not right for you. Keeping difficult emotions inside takes a toll over time. Perhaps you'll feel differently in the future and seek out help when you're ready for it. Be kind to yourself.
Freetime · 56-60, M
Not all therapists are going to be right for you. You may have to try several before you find a good fit. When you do find a good one, it can make a big difference. I would encourage you to at least try it.
specman · 51-55, M
If you’re having trouble living your life doing nothing will get you anywhere! If you don’t want therapy then try self help or contact one of the many organizations that apply to your life’s problems.
72andy · 51-55, M
Therapy does not work for everyone
You may not be ready, or it maybe them that need it.
Be open about your options
Do what helps you.
But if it’s getting too much. See someone.
Find your own therapy. Some sort of hobby that both excites and relaxes you
Viper · M
Well, what's the downside to trying therapy?
Kylie022581 · 22-25, F
@Viper thanks
Tres13 · 51-55, M
Ask mum to buy you a fishing rod & go catch some fish
Don’t take any advice you get from here!
smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
Well u are 22 to 25 u don't have to go if u don't want to
Shaveit · 61-69, M
Move out from under their control
MonaReeves86 · 36-40, F
I went it was good but I wasn’t getting anything good out of it
MonaReeves86 · 36-40, F
Try it out if it helps you keep going
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Kylie022581 · 22-25, F
@swirlie thanks, I haven’t seen him in a couple week.

 
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