Just like I wish subtitles for people existed

I wish there was a social battery sign above my head that lets people know how many bars are left, idc how awkward it makes things. that way i can just get up and walk off without explaining myself and go home.

My therapist: Or you could communicate your feelings?

Me: no. they should already know how i am *gets up and walks off*

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Reject · 26-30, M

Some people can see those subtitles and bars. It’s an advantage of emotional intelligence. You need someone like that I say.

Pressure

@Reject i think i'm the only one that notices these things. That or people are just too codependent to care about how i feel

I know i should say something. But i feel like some feelings would get hurt and i hate doing that to people lol.

I'm exhausted and hoping people know how to take hints like i do.

Reject · 26-30, M

@Pressure I know the feeling. The best friend I ever had? I could say literally anything to him and he could take it. Anything. I was downright cruel sometimes. Yet again he was the best friendship I ever had. I wish I had more relationships like that one.

Pressure

@Reject if i worked on my communication issues, i would probably be able to decipher which friends are able to handle what i say lol. I hope people know that i never mean anything in any malcious manner.

I'm probably severely underestimating what he can handle. But when he tells me things like "thats okay, no one ever answers my calls"

And "i'm afraid of being alone" or "all my girl best friends left"

All i can think is he's gonna panic if i say i need space or get real sad lol but every now n then something rude slips out cause i'm just so tired of it.

I see you more than i see my own room, i was there for your bday, i try to answer most of your phone calls

How much more do you need from me? I have other friends and i also just like my time.

I almost regret telling him i won't be one of those girl friends that leave him. But maybe i'm figuring out why that happens with him lol and i KNOW he has other friends too.

I love you, you're great. But leave me tf alone 😂

Reject · 26-30, M

@Pressure It does take some good understanding of people to determine who can handle the raw you and who can’t. Most of the time you have to fake things and keep your more authentic self to your closer friends you know well.

I find the best thing is you should think just enough to say what you mean. Don’t be emotional and impulsive without any thought, but don’t overthink it either to the point your truth is lost in the excessive filter you put on.

If he can’t handle that level of honesty from you, then he’s not a true friend anyways and he has to learn how to become one. You’re a good person wanting to be there for him, but you probably already know that you can only help those who help themselves. If he’s not willing to care for himself, then he’ll just drag you down with him.

Pressure

@Reject do you have such a way with words by the way

Reject · 26-30, M

@Pressure Aww. Thank you Pressure! 🤗 I’m most eloquent in writing, but I have my moments in person too. It’s just nice to have your company.