[TL;DR] An introspection on personal thoughts of my own interpersonal relationships.
We all have thoughts that we don't publicly wish to wish to share in the open. That's a part of my own personal philosophy.
How we deal with those thoughts varies greatly depending on our respective experiences.
1. The deniers.
Some deny what they consider to be negative thoughts. That they consider them negative I find interesting. They obviously have thought those same thoughts because from the very fact that they consider them negative. You must classify thoughts to consider them negative. Therefore you have thought about them.
2. The cognizant.
Some wish to ignore certain aspects of their thoughts. They recognize them yet they place them in an area for non public consumption. This is often the case I believe
3. The seekers.
A very few really don't care what they share publicly, yet do so totally anonymous. These are the people that often are dangerous people yet not as dangerous as it they let on. They use the public forums as an outlet. They may act on those thoughts, yet not always. Only at the breaking point do they ever do anything.
4. The planners
I find the most dangerous though are those that don't share their thoughts publicly. Those are the planners and doers. The unibombers of the world. The ones that commit the most dangerous acts. They are often extreme loners. For they refuse to talk to anyone.
We as a society have yet to address these later types of dangerous people. Likely because we really don't wish to interact with those types in any way. They are true loners because of that really. They are the future terrorist of society.
I really can't stress this enough. There really are even more types than I have mentioned. I only list the broadest types just to list them at all. Yet each category have separate subtypes. To further explain there are even those that don't believe in types. They are apart of the first category... the deniers.
I'm almost certain the deniers might comment on this post! Mostly because they are the most vocal. Wishing to impose their views on everyone
Yet everything above is about interpersonal relationships.
I have my own issues with relationships. I actually am the second type with broader implications. Say a height and depth of sorts, for I don't believe in a two dimensional world as most do by only giving two options.
I have often said that I am an introvert. That is part of my own relationship problems. Because I am an introvert I often think in-depth. Such as this post is. Yet the dept is such that their are certain things I don't refer to in the open. That is not to speak of the height or if you will extent.
The height (extent) might likely be considered extreme while the depth is not so extreme, yet the depth is still pronounced.
Going into the depth I am often uncomfortable. For I really don't know how many react. I know saying certain things might make certain people uncomfortable.
I just don't openly talk of those things. In fact when I first got on this site I sort of upset the vocal deniers of the first type. So after a very long time I removed those posts. That is speaking of the extent or height. It takes me time to reevaluate what I do share publicly.
It doesn't mean that anything I said wasn't true. As a few of the deniers accuse of many others.
Yet even that extent often effects my own personal relationships. You see I don't like reevaluate too soon. That to me is a denial of commitment to the truth.
So what I currently say I believe is true, yet it's rarely the whole truth to what I say.
To say that all of this doesn't affect my relationships is to deny that their is a problem. I fully recognize that there is a problem. I actually have very few friends much less been in a real relationship of a serious type in over a decade.
Mostly because of how I am.
If I don't comment on certain posts it really doesn't mean that I am ignoring anyone. While I do ignore certain things because I just can not relate to those posts.
I really don't judge anyone for anything. And why I never block anyone. Yet to say that I don't open enough isn't the truth either.
Like everyone I must live with others around me. Both online as well as offline. That includes the deniers of their own inner selves.
While certain comments are welcome. This is a personal post. It doesn't mean this is up for debate. I might remove your comment if I so judge it offensive.
How we deal with those thoughts varies greatly depending on our respective experiences.
1. The deniers.
Some deny what they consider to be negative thoughts. That they consider them negative I find interesting. They obviously have thought those same thoughts because from the very fact that they consider them negative. You must classify thoughts to consider them negative. Therefore you have thought about them.
2. The cognizant.
Some wish to ignore certain aspects of their thoughts. They recognize them yet they place them in an area for non public consumption. This is often the case I believe
3. The seekers.
A very few really don't care what they share publicly, yet do so totally anonymous. These are the people that often are dangerous people yet not as dangerous as it they let on. They use the public forums as an outlet. They may act on those thoughts, yet not always. Only at the breaking point do they ever do anything.
4. The planners
I find the most dangerous though are those that don't share their thoughts publicly. Those are the planners and doers. The unibombers of the world. The ones that commit the most dangerous acts. They are often extreme loners. For they refuse to talk to anyone.
We as a society have yet to address these later types of dangerous people. Likely because we really don't wish to interact with those types in any way. They are true loners because of that really. They are the future terrorist of society.
I really can't stress this enough. There really are even more types than I have mentioned. I only list the broadest types just to list them at all. Yet each category have separate subtypes. To further explain there are even those that don't believe in types. They are apart of the first category... the deniers.
I'm almost certain the deniers might comment on this post! Mostly because they are the most vocal. Wishing to impose their views on everyone
Yet everything above is about interpersonal relationships.
I have my own issues with relationships. I actually am the second type with broader implications. Say a height and depth of sorts, for I don't believe in a two dimensional world as most do by only giving two options.
I have often said that I am an introvert. That is part of my own relationship problems. Because I am an introvert I often think in-depth. Such as this post is. Yet the dept is such that their are certain things I don't refer to in the open. That is not to speak of the height or if you will extent.
The height (extent) might likely be considered extreme while the depth is not so extreme, yet the depth is still pronounced.
Going into the depth I am often uncomfortable. For I really don't know how many react. I know saying certain things might make certain people uncomfortable.
I just don't openly talk of those things. In fact when I first got on this site I sort of upset the vocal deniers of the first type. So after a very long time I removed those posts. That is speaking of the extent or height. It takes me time to reevaluate what I do share publicly.
It doesn't mean that anything I said wasn't true. As a few of the deniers accuse of many others.
Yet even that extent often effects my own personal relationships. You see I don't like reevaluate too soon. That to me is a denial of commitment to the truth.
So what I currently say I believe is true, yet it's rarely the whole truth to what I say.
To say that all of this doesn't affect my relationships is to deny that their is a problem. I fully recognize that there is a problem. I actually have very few friends much less been in a real relationship of a serious type in over a decade.
Mostly because of how I am.
If I don't comment on certain posts it really doesn't mean that I am ignoring anyone. While I do ignore certain things because I just can not relate to those posts.
I really don't judge anyone for anything. And why I never block anyone. Yet to say that I don't open enough isn't the truth either.
Like everyone I must live with others around me. Both online as well as offline. That includes the deniers of their own inner selves.
While certain comments are welcome. This is a personal post. It doesn't mean this is up for debate. I might remove your comment if I so judge it offensive.
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