Is grief the price of love, or is it the proof that love was real?

Be there when she wants you, leave when she needs to be alone. Be available, be kind. Time will eventually dull the pain. Everyone is different and has their own reasons for grief but most of us eventually come to terms with our loss. Some quicker than others, some less so. I cried every day for a year after my wife of forty years died. But that was eight years ago and now I can look back on our life together without bursting into tears. No loving partner would want the survivor to grieve forever.