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How do you deal with a bully?

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th3r0n · 41-45, M
Depends on the circumstances, but absolute and terrifying force is one way

Of course when they give up and don't want to fight anymore that's a good time to talk to them about the error or their ways
TessDun · 36-40, F
[sep]@th3r0n Yes , but it is always tempting to treat them the way they do or even worst.
th3r0n · 41-45, M
@TessDun temptation exists for many things, but when we know what we should do and don't do it, we do wrong

I find that bullies are usually foolish misled people; they won't give in easily unless they feel they are overpowered by someone but if you can get them to back down they're more likely to listen than one might expect, and you might even change their life and the lives of their would-be victims
TessDun · 36-40, F
@th3r0n There is this bully at work. I told the mentors and superiors about her actions. One senior colleague emailed the superiors and clients about her technical erros at work, in response also to her bad attitude. Now she is so timid, and depressed to a point that she asked for the help of HR to reprimand the senior who exposed her. Almost all superiors are not on her side. Bullies should be shamed, that is the only way they can be tamed.
th3r0n · 41-45, M
@TessDun sometimes they're willing to back down and see another way

If they think they can still get the upper hand, sometimes their stubbornness isn't broken yet

Think of it as dealing with a misbehaved kid that grew up and never learned to treat people right