Random thought on "The Psychology of Bullies"

People who bully have distorted self identity; they are insecure, unsure of their self worth and they lack self confidence. Because of lack of self awareness they don't develop the social coping mechanisms to deal with relationships and hence they miss out on fostering genuine healthy relationships.

Whatever relationships they have end up becoming toxic and they often experience the feeling of being abandoned.

We all have that fear of being abandoned but we give our best emotionally to sustain the relationship. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't but we still move on with a hope somewhere to search for a healthy relationship.

A bully lacks the intellectual capacity to think this through and gets outrageous and frustrated for being unaccepted, for being ignored and the uncontrollable desperation develops an obsessive compulsion to seek attention and popularity.

A bully's obsession to get noticed goes as far as denigrating and humiliating people unlike them merely for attention.

For sure a bully is noticed but in a bad light. They lack the acumen to distinguish between being famous and infamous. But they are okay being the bad ones as long as they are gaining popularity. Imagine how insecure that is!

The one's who kiss the ass of bullies and exhibit loyalty lack self awareness and they often nod to anything and everything the bully says or does because they are blind followers - what they don't realise is they are self surrendered slaves and not just followers.

They want to be associated with a bully because their pea size brain tells them that the bully presumably has an edge over others and hence the power.

Can you imagine how delusional that is to construe that as POWER?

Disclaimer: I have not experienced anything recently but amidst a healthy chat this topic came up and i thought of writing it down.