I Was Bullied
Two weeks ago, something happened to me where i was judged harshly and someone wanted to change my "I am not interested" point of view to being "all involved" in a subject. Two other people made the same comment I made but i was thee one that one person went after.
She was judgmental, accusing, and bullying me.
I spoke to her and I told her how she did the wrong thing. She had an audience and she went after me. If she had something to tell me, do it as one to one. I was comfortable where things ended. I did not get my apology but that is more her issue than mine. I had to be ok with that. I was.
A few days later I spoke to the other person that is an extension of her. Whatever she does this person does. I even asked the one bullying that is she wanted to be there it was fine by me. She said no. I think she is you guys thing. I can't fight her battles. I thought no kidding but you have been. I told her this person is so codependent on you it's not funny. You do something and she follows. But that is their business.
Last night I get a phone call. Apparently, she was not done with me after all. The other person went to her and told her i hurt her. So now I am bad again for "hurting" the person that thought she could jump into a discussion that was not her business.
So we got into it again on the same discussion but weirdly, the person that bullied me, called me in a friendly way to ask if we could meet in person. She wanted to discuss how I am pushing all my friends away, how I am in a bad way lately, how life is really getting me, etc. I am at a loss for words and I said to her, where are you getting your information? I am not isolating. I go out with friends, I spent time with my son, I am starting a sewing project that I am looking forward to, I go see friends every day of the week but Tuesday. I am confused.
Maybe she feels that I am pushing her and the other one way because I did not like their treatment of me. I am entitled to that but not for them to make stories so they feel like it's all me.
I ended up busting out crying and asking her why can't she let this go. She said it's because I hurt her sidekick. I told her I refuse to make her more important than me. She did what she did and she has a consequence. I am not going to change myself so she feels good and I feel like trash. Sorry. She was wrong. The bully said to me. you have to realize that she is just finding her voice and you are making her feel like she could not get involved in a group discussion. I said it was not a group discussion. You attacked me with a group of people that did not say anything. You made them uncomfortable. This was between you and I.
So we ended it with her saying, well I did say we needed a discussion because obviously I didn't know things that you are doing. So now I know.
We ended it because we are going to meet in person.
This morning, sidekick sent me a message. She wanted to let me know by text how I hurt her. I thought "REALLY?" omg, how long will I have to help everyone else feel more important at the expense of myself? I refuse. I have not answered. I am just tired of it all. I went to bed after that heated discussion and now waking up to the remembrance of it and now lets finish it off with sidekick using the exact words the bully used.
When I met her that night, she also used the same words that the bully had used before. So I'm getting it from two people that caused this mess and I am the one they are counting to fix it.
Too much drama? YES.
She was judgmental, accusing, and bullying me.
I spoke to her and I told her how she did the wrong thing. She had an audience and she went after me. If she had something to tell me, do it as one to one. I was comfortable where things ended. I did not get my apology but that is more her issue than mine. I had to be ok with that. I was.
A few days later I spoke to the other person that is an extension of her. Whatever she does this person does. I even asked the one bullying that is she wanted to be there it was fine by me. She said no. I think she is you guys thing. I can't fight her battles. I thought no kidding but you have been. I told her this person is so codependent on you it's not funny. You do something and she follows. But that is their business.
Last night I get a phone call. Apparently, she was not done with me after all. The other person went to her and told her i hurt her. So now I am bad again for "hurting" the person that thought she could jump into a discussion that was not her business.
So we got into it again on the same discussion but weirdly, the person that bullied me, called me in a friendly way to ask if we could meet in person. She wanted to discuss how I am pushing all my friends away, how I am in a bad way lately, how life is really getting me, etc. I am at a loss for words and I said to her, where are you getting your information? I am not isolating. I go out with friends, I spent time with my son, I am starting a sewing project that I am looking forward to, I go see friends every day of the week but Tuesday. I am confused.
Maybe she feels that I am pushing her and the other one way because I did not like their treatment of me. I am entitled to that but not for them to make stories so they feel like it's all me.
I ended up busting out crying and asking her why can't she let this go. She said it's because I hurt her sidekick. I told her I refuse to make her more important than me. She did what she did and she has a consequence. I am not going to change myself so she feels good and I feel like trash. Sorry. She was wrong. The bully said to me. you have to realize that she is just finding her voice and you are making her feel like she could not get involved in a group discussion. I said it was not a group discussion. You attacked me with a group of people that did not say anything. You made them uncomfortable. This was between you and I.
So we ended it with her saying, well I did say we needed a discussion because obviously I didn't know things that you are doing. So now I know.
We ended it because we are going to meet in person.
This morning, sidekick sent me a message. She wanted to let me know by text how I hurt her. I thought "REALLY?" omg, how long will I have to help everyone else feel more important at the expense of myself? I refuse. I have not answered. I am just tired of it all. I went to bed after that heated discussion and now waking up to the remembrance of it and now lets finish it off with sidekick using the exact words the bully used.
When I met her that night, she also used the same words that the bully had used before. So I'm getting it from two people that caused this mess and I am the one they are counting to fix it.
Too much drama? YES.
