I Have Anxiety

I don't like having anxiety,I can't even order food without feeling like I'm going to have an attack. I always ask my friends if they can do things for me because of my anxiety but they just say things like "grow up" or "just do it yourself". To be honest I think those two things are probably the worst things possible that you can say to someone with anxiety. In my experience it just makes me feel worse and more stupid than I already feel