I Have Anxiety

Does anyone else find that their family laugh at or belittle them because of their anxiety?

It's been an ongoing thing that I'm "silly" and "I'm so overdramatic" and anything I say is ridiculous when it comes to how I feel. My feelings are never valid because everyone has always been too busy saying "no you're wrong that's not how it is". It's got to a point now where I can't tell if what I'm saying or thinking is bad or not and I have to check with my husband a lot.

I just spoke to my sister about it, after my mother said no wonder my in-laws didn't want to stay at the house because of the state it was last time. I was going through a very difficult time and the house was a mess, but her saying loudly so everyone including my aunt could hear "and they were sitting in your room amongst underwear in filth" when she knows I have/had PTSD/PPA from my daughter's birth and really struggled with her diagnosis, let alone not knowing they were going to go up to our room 🙁. My sister has gone off on me, saying that's wrong, I didn't hear right and now she's ignoring me. I feel like I want to hurt myself, I'm going to try very hard not to but it's just too much. I'm so embarrassed.

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Justiceforall · M

Does your aunt know you are having problems, if she does I wouldn't listen to there insults and tell them that between you and the other person not them, I think you need to set your foot down at get ugly with them.

Starsandfire · 31-35, F

@Justiceforall my daughter's diagnosis was at birth and a huge shock. Eight weeks later I got married and had the reception in our garden. It was all I could do to tidy downstairs and I had no idea people would be in our room too. I'm just so embarrassed.

Justiceforall · M

@Starsandfire you shouldnt be you had your plate full of problems and they should understand that. I think I would have been asking why are you in my room, shouldn't no one been in there without your permission, maybe it's just me but you don't just do that.

Starsandfire · 31-35, F

@Justiceforall I know! The baby was in there for a lot of our reception but I never asked my in laws to go up there. Mum was supposed to be up there with her but came downstairs 🤷 so yeah. I'm not happy about it but my opinion is silly apparently.

Justiceforall · M

@Starsandfire it's only silly if you let it be, your a grown woman not a toddler to be scolded for doing something you shouldnt. It's hard to stand up for yourself after yrs being a foot mat. But you can do it, you don't want your child growing up thinking she should let people walk over her. Like I said you may have to put your foot down and get ugly with them where they no your serous