I Have Anxiety

My sister in law isn't talking to me. My brain is running over every single scenario and meeting we've ever had and saying I've been rude and awful and that's the reason why. I haven't, I don't think, but I can't stop the thoughts.

She's moody and not a great person and can take offence over nothing (and we live literally on different sides of the world) but it's making me feel sick thinking what I could have done that I'm not aware of.

My husband thinks it might be because I've "taken him away from them" and she doesn't like it that he has a life of his own. I mean, she was on her phone for our whole wedding ceremony and left early and made an excuse every time we were going to meet up. She's just not a great person, but she's skinny and "successful" and has a high opinion of herself and I'm just this big pile of s***, so I suffer 😥

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CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M

That sucks, I'm sorry to hear that it's causing you such anxiety. Family is the worst, then suddenly you gain a whole new one with added insecurities and unfathomable behaviours. I hope you get to the bottom of what's going on.

Starsandfire · 31-35, F

@CheshireCatalyst so once, she baked a cake for our father in law when he got diagnosed with cancer. When nobody acknowledged her she stormed out. And it was a raw vegan cake. So I think she's probably just a narcissistic bitch 🤷‍♀️ makes the anxiety worse because deep down I know there's literally nothing I can do to help it.

CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M

@Starsandfire nothing wrong with being a narcissist if you use your narcissism powers for good and not evil. Sounds like she lacks introspection though? Everything is about her but nothing is her fault / problem?

Starsandfire · 31-35, F

@CheshireCatalyst yes!!! Exactly that. You're very perceptive 😁 tell me, how does one use the power of narcissism for good?

CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M

@Starsandfire so a narcissist wants to be adored by as many people as possible. That's the main quest.

The best way of achieving that short term is by lying, cheating, manipulating, to con people into loving you because they think you're someone you're not.

The best way of achieving that [b]long term[/b] is to just be a good person. Study what good people do and copy them, even if it goes against all your instincts. You have to keep watch on yourself though, otherwise you fall into traps that you set for yourself.

Starsandfire · 31-35, F

@CheshireCatalyst interesting! I am for sure, definitely not one 😂

CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M

@Starsandfire but at least now you can keep an eye out for it in your sister in law! 😋