@SW-User perhaps, but pain and sadness brings about change in character. If it was all sunshine and rainbows change would be stagnant and you'd actually be worse off that way. Ya wouldn't have understanding and virtue, you wouldn't be able to handle the highs and lows of life very well either. ;) I've seen people break under what seems trivial to me and you because they're none the wiser, or that they lose themselves to be nothing but a contribution to dark vices and evils in the world.
Show yourself some grace because you are becoming a different and upright breed of human. :)