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I hate when people tell me I should go for therapy...

First of all, I'm a very specific person. I'm not a general cookie-cutter person and you can't just put me in a box. And second, I went to a therapist a long time ago and it was a disaster. He kept asking me a lot of questions over and over and he was so strict with the way everything was in his office. If I even picked up something on his coffee table, he would reach over and take it out of my hands and put it down in the exact same place where it was and told me not to hide behind things. Who does that? What does that even mean? And he would insist that I sit in a specific chair and if I moved or stood up, he complained that I moved around too much. And I was like, "Dude... you're too controlling." And this guy was trying to tell me how to live? No. I'm sick of the therapy comments. Those really, really, really bother me. Get therapy. Get therapy. It doesn't work for all people. It doesn't work. My needs are very specific.

And the funny and annoying thing is, I don't even really have social anxiety. So, there is that. Therapy is not going to help me. Right now, I'm feeling a lot less insecure about things, and I have more stability and my brain is maturing and I'm getting better and more secure in myself. And that's important for long-term relationships.

The person today who told me I should go to therapy also said I use the word "like" and the phrase, "yeah, but" too much.
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Dude, some of us are just way beyond therapy. LOL
deadgerbil · 26-30, M
You don't need a therapist as you listen to Andrew Tate lol he's helping you get over your fear of the most mundane of social interactions

In fact, there's tremendous progress seen over the 10 years of you posting about social anxiety.... Lol
MarkPaul · 26-30, M
@deadgerbil No...

But you're kind of taking things out of context and pretending I haven't made any progress.
deadgerbil · 26-30, M
@MarkPaul your idea of progress is not wetting yourself when asked by a cashier if you want paper or plastic
MarkPaul · 26-30, M
@deadgerbil Well, of course that's not really true. But people just don't give me a chance. The world is cruel that way. That's not my fault, but I work through it. I always work through it.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
There are many types of therapists. Don't assume one therapist is the same as any other.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
It's the truth! It's the truth that you find obnoxious.

That is a common sentiment, and in practice, it is actually highly encouraged. Many psychologists and therapists seek their own therapy for several reasons.

First, the emotional toll of absorbing other people's trauma and distress—often called compassion fatigue or vicarious traumatization—can be heavy. Having a neutral space to process those emotions prevents burnout.

Second, the process of being a patient helps them become better practitioners. By experiencing the vulnerability, frustration, and breakthroughs that happen from the other side of the couch, they gain a deeper empathy for what their clients are going through.

Finally, everyone has their own blind spots. No matter how much a person knows about the mechanics of the human mind, they cannot objectively analyze their own subconscious patterns. A therapist provides the external perspective necessary for a psychologist to work through their own personal issues, ensuring those problems don't unintentionally interfere with their work with patients.
MarkPaul · 26-30, M
@DeWayfarer It's become common for people to just throw out, "get therapy" as a catchall for any and all temporary fixations or irregularities. It's not something that should be pursued casually, lightly, or by some know-it-all wannabe who presents it as an off-the-shelf solution.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
@MarkPaul Deny if you wish. Yet your complaints will continue to happen. There's still no justifiable reason for your complaints.

 
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