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My best friend recently ghosted me

I am trying not to assume why she ghosted me. I am trying not to dwell on it. Might not have had anything to do with me. Maybe, she is going through something personal. I don't know. I don't know, if I will ever know. Only she truly has answers. A part of me is relieved that she is gone. A part of me misses her deeply, to the point that it physically hurts. I feel extremly guilty for what I am about to admit. She was what I would have considered to be a very high maintenance friend. I always tried my best to be there for her. Anytime she needed me. She has a very small inner circle. I was one of the main people she would confide it. She would often tell me how lonely she was. She would tell me how I was one of the only people she could talk to. One of the only people who helped her to feel heard. For the first couple of years of our friendship I felt honored to be someone she could confide in. I was honored to be someone she trusted. I really enjoyed her company and being around her. She is a good person....After my dad took his own life. I noticed, that our dynamic had changed. As the months went by, I noticed that I had changed. He passed away almost exactly a year ago. I had found that instead of feeling honored by being able to be there for my best friend. I started to feel resentful. I started to feel suffocated by her. I started to feel angry, that she felt the "need' to vent during every social interaction we had. I started to feel angry, that most of our interactions seemed to revolve around her. That almost every conversation had to do with her and her feelings. The friendship started to feel very one sided, emotionally so to speak. Got to a point where when she would "open up" to me about something. Or was looking for emotional support, I didn't "care" to be there. I dreaded when she asked me to hangout. I would always have to mentally prepare myself, the day before our meet up. Prepare myself to be around her. Of course, I listened but, I wasn't really. I found it hard to show compassion. I can't explain it, I started to feel indifferent. I was very confused by this. As, I like to think of myself as an active listener and a very empathetic person. Instead, it felt like I was playing therapist. I felt resentful of her feeling the need to rely on me so much. Maybe my feelings are valid or maybe I am just an A-hole. Either way she is no longer in my life. She is a good person and I wish her the best... Thank you to anyone who took the time to read my novel lol
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Kiesel · 56-60, M
I’m so very sorry for your loss… so sorry
And sorry your friend ghosted you.
Hard to say the true reason why..
HelloItsMeAgain · 26-30, FNew
@Kiesel Thank you so much for your condolences. Thank you for taking the time to comment on my post. Really is hard to say. It's cool that I am able to share anonymously about what I am experiencing. Somehow, it has been bringing me some comfort.
Not making assumptions if often wise. Yes, it's very painful when these dear friendships come to an end. It sounds like it was pretty recent, so maybe it hasn't come to an end. You might consider being ready for that.
@HelloItsMeAgain I'm going through something similar. I have a friend who is one of the warmest people I know act very cold to me. I already tried to explore that with her but didn't get anywhere so now I don't know what to do.
Well, like you said, the bright side is you don't have to deal with her drama, which sounds like something you can do without right now ♥
HelloItsMeAgain · 26-30, FNew
@ImperialAerosolKidFromEP So sorry to hear you can relate. If you don't mind me asking. What happend, when you tried to talk to her about the way she has been towards you recently? You said she is usually one of the warmest people. Something tells me, she very well, may be coming back eventually. I know, it best to try not to dwell on it. I just wonder if your friend went through something recently. That she hasn't been ready to talk about. When was the last time you heard from her?
@HelloItsMeAgain I'll say she went through something! She's an NYC dr and this was during the snowstorm they had. I gave her about a week and a half after that, came back and told her I was giving her some space (I.e. taking the hint) and wanted to see how she's doing and all she had for me was "Im good. u?"
I was pretty hurt when this all Started but suspended my hurt until we could clear the air. I guess I'm just going to have to take the hurt 🤷‍♂💔
SUPERVlXEN · F
My ghosts are missed and I’ll surely not know what exactly they’re going through or if it’s related to my person.

 
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