Sometimes I feel like I'm in a fishbowl watching the world around me
And I can't quite reach it or be a part of it, or anyone else.
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LilyoftheValley · F
Are you an introvert? I am. For me, it's a conscious decision to be selective of who and what I need to focus on or allow to connect with me. I do so to protect the peace in my life. Maybe ask yourself if you are perhaps the one holding back and why. Then from there, maybe find your ''spiritual tribe'', as I call it, people who are much like you, who share the same principles and interests.
Mordechai · 31-35, M
@LilyoftheValley I definitely am. I've started my life again recently, and been on a journey of self discovery for the last 6 years, which has meant a lot of moving around and focusing, being busy.
So it's been difficult to find or keep relationships and friendships, dated people but not felt much connection with them. So yeah I think you're right, I work with extraverts and I live by myself so it feels kinda isolating. I've only been here over a month so it's early days?.
So it's been difficult to find or keep relationships and friendships, dated people but not felt much connection with them. So yeah I think you're right, I work with extraverts and I live by myself so it feels kinda isolating. I've only been here over a month so it's early days?.
LilyoftheValley · F
@Mordechai Taking on a journey of self discovery is a positive thing and is for the brave because it isn't guaranteed to be an easy journey but what you gain is enlightenment and hopefully, peace and happiness. Your moving around a lot and just having established yourself in a new environment could be a factor as to why you have not yet made connections. For now, perhaps you are still trying to get a feel of the environment, observing the people and trying to get a sense of the vibe of the place. Eventually, you'll acclimate and adapt to it. Focusing and being busy is important; inactivity and being sedentary are not good for our mental and physical health. As for making connections with people, it is early days, so give it time. You can maybe check out areas that have activities based on your hobbies; be it sports (gym, walks in a park), art (workshops), music ( music bars or karaoke if you like singing) or join activities your extrovert coworkers invite you to, by doing these things, you can find people who like doing the same things, thereby finding people you are most likely able to connect with. You can be an introvert and yet allow yourself to meet people; it doesn't mean having to become extroverted, but it does help with our growth and not letting seclusionism affect our mental health.
I think the key is choosing what you think will be good for you and what won't, that's a good guide to avoid unwanted conflicts and going the wrong direction in life😊
I think the key is choosing what you think will be good for you and what won't, that's a good guide to avoid unwanted conflicts and going the wrong direction in life😊
Mordechai · 31-35, M
@LilyoftheValley More or less, I think it's finding things where I can meet like-minded people, I do better in one to ones and not groups. Once my psychotherapy course starts again I'll be meeting people, it's just dealing with the lack of connection in the meanwhile I guess.
LilyoftheValley · F
@Mordechai I'm sure you're going to meet like-minded people, especially in a course you have chosen and which they have chosen as well, that already being a point of mutual interest. So all is well, this lack of connection is temporary and will surely be remedied soon 😊