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Suicidal boyfriend

I've been planning on leaving my very rude boyfriend, however, I heard him say that he's still suicidal and has been thinking about it again recently. I know I've made some posts venting about his attitude, that aside, I once loved him so I still care a bit and don't want to add to his suicidal thoughts. He bought me a teddy to say thank you for being there for him, which is sweet. It doesn't change anything but now I'm depressed because leaving is what I'm working towards and this situation makes it more difficult.
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LordBarbossa · 36-40, T
Does he have any close friends he trusts?

If so, I'd have a talk with them to make sure they'll look for warning signs or be there even more for him, then do a clean breakup in the nicest way possible.

He is not your responsibility, but as a fellow death thoughts person myself, I know it's not gonna be easy either way.

Just make sure he won't feel abandoned, and that his friends are willing to atep it up for a while.
UltimateDemiGoddess · 31-35, F
@LordBarbossa when he gets this way he says he doesn't have any friends. The ones I've heard of don't live anywhere near him. His mother and sister live a few hours drive away. He doesn't drive. His ex is the only person I know of that lives nearby but he said that he's blocked her on Facebook and blocked her number. I kind of don't believe him and was kind of hoping he'd contact her to help him so that I can leave.
LordBarbossa · 36-40, T
@UltimateDemiGoddess that's a difficult situation.

Is there anyone you can call for regular well-fare checks? Like a hospital, cops, his doctor, a shrink? Maybe even a neighbor of his?

Anyone you can call atleast to get some professional advice?
UltimateDemiGoddess · 31-35, F
@LordBarbossa I reckon they'll tell me to leave it to the professional health care workers and worry about myself.
LordBarbossa · 36-40, T
@UltimateDemiGoddess I agree with them, tbh. Sounds harsh, but like mentioned before, I idealize death myself, and I've pulled through some very hard times.

He's stronger than he thinks. And worst case scenario (this is probably going to sound mean) if he goes through with his thoughts, it's better for you to be away from it. Not necessarily easier, but better.

When someone is feeling so low they commit, they genuinely feel like they're doing the world a favor bc in their mond they don't bring anything good into the world and noone loves them enough to give it another try (all in their head, obv, and nothing one can say will convince them otherwise)

At the end of the day, worst case scenario here, would you rather feel like you weren't enough to stay alive for, or feel like you're worth taking their life over?

Imo one is easier to get over than the other.


Again, this is worst case scenario.
My experience, as well as studies, show that those who actively talks about, or threatens to end their lives are much less likely to do so than those who hide it.


Idk if this helps, but at the end of the day: don't stay in a relationship bc of your partners troubling thoughts and actions.
UltimateDemiGoddess · 31-35, F
@LordBarbossa you're completely right. Thank you for taking the time to write that message. I'm sitting here thinking about when to leave. I wish I had a friend who would pick me up or walk me out of his house. I feel like I need support to do it that's why it's taking a while
LordBarbossa · 36-40, T
@UltimateDemiGoddess If you feel the need to talk during and/or after I can give you my number so you can call through whatsapp (assuming I'm awake. Different time zones and all that)
UltimateDemiGoddess · 31-35, F
@LordBarbossa that's so sweet and kind of you. I'll let you know. Thank you very much
LordBarbossa · 36-40, T
@UltimateDemiGoddess ofc. I'm always happy to help when I can 💜
UltimateDemiGoddess · 31-35, F
@LordBarbossa I've added you as a friend. Thank you for accepting.
LordBarbossa · 36-40, T
@UltimateDemiGoddess again, always happy to help. And noone can have too many friends ☺💜