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foldedunfolding · 41-45, F
what perfect timing..i was just hitting up a guy friend abt this.
ok once a girl has gotten a little too clingy, maybe even looking a little desperate to a dude, or like she likes him more than he likes her..is she a goner after that? is there any undoing of the damage?
i kinda started doing my own thing more..ignoring texts even..taking longer to answer..making it clear i was with other people..etc. but then he thought i was just mad at him or something. i feel like i have screwed myself. bc when i did that..i came off as drama a bit, which was the opposite of my intention.
he still hits me up every day, but sometimes i wonder if it is out of obligation. sucks bc it is such a delicate balance. i always feel like im walking a tight rope..bc..i only REALLY like someone once every few YEARS.
And i cant help it when my voice gets wavery from needing to cry it out n shit.
ok once a girl has gotten a little too clingy, maybe even looking a little desperate to a dude, or like she likes him more than he likes her..is she a goner after that? is there any undoing of the damage?
i kinda started doing my own thing more..ignoring texts even..taking longer to answer..making it clear i was with other people..etc. but then he thought i was just mad at him or something. i feel like i have screwed myself. bc when i did that..i came off as drama a bit, which was the opposite of my intention.
he still hits me up every day, but sometimes i wonder if it is out of obligation. sucks bc it is such a delicate balance. i always feel like im walking a tight rope..bc..i only REALLY like someone once every few YEARS.
And i cant help it when my voice gets wavery from needing to cry it out n shit.
CountScrofula · 41-45, M
@foldedunfolding Keep in mind that although all men are different, most regular dudes are not going to understand the extremely delicate mental games you're going through here to find a space between distant and clingy.
Y'all need to fucking communicate instead of guess at ideal behaviours. Because yeah, if I was seeing someone and she suddenly reduced the volume of communication.
You are an intense person and that is not something you should try to minimize or hide. Be intense. That's you. It's part of what makes you hot and awesome.
So have a fucking conversation about what went down after you're through the emotional response to it and just focus on fixing it. You need to understand each other for a relatoinship to work.
Y'all need to fucking communicate instead of guess at ideal behaviours. Because yeah, if I was seeing someone and she suddenly reduced the volume of communication.
You are an intense person and that is not something you should try to minimize or hide. Be intense. That's you. It's part of what makes you hot and awesome.
So have a fucking conversation about what went down after you're through the emotional response to it and just focus on fixing it. You need to understand each other for a relatoinship to work.
foldedunfolding · 41-45, F
@CountScrofula aw thank you for the kindness..i do need to figure out how to not be so intense i think, sometimes..and that is where i fucked up. i was asked on like 7 dates by 7 guys in 2 weeks..and i only cared about THIS GUY, so i said no to all the others.
THIS GUY still says he wants to be with me "eventually" but that he needs to level up first. to me, a guy can level up IN a relationship..so i kinda feel like he just doesnt want me ENOUGH.
sadly, he KNOWS i said no to the others, bc i was trying to stroke his ego a bit and such. he said he is only seeing me too, and does spend most weekends with me..but his guard is up some.
it sucks when the one person u want to confess your roller coaster emotions to..is the one kinda MAKING them roller coastery. i know i know "The One" would not make me feel this way supposedlyyy..but i am fucking 41 and damaged. i have to take what i can get kinda :-/
THIS GUY still says he wants to be with me "eventually" but that he needs to level up first. to me, a guy can level up IN a relationship..so i kinda feel like he just doesnt want me ENOUGH.
sadly, he KNOWS i said no to the others, bc i was trying to stroke his ego a bit and such. he said he is only seeing me too, and does spend most weekends with me..but his guard is up some.
it sucks when the one person u want to confess your roller coaster emotions to..is the one kinda MAKING them roller coastery. i know i know "The One" would not make me feel this way supposedlyyy..but i am fucking 41 and damaged. i have to take what i can get kinda :-/
foldedunfolding · 41-45, F
@CountScrofula complicating it FURTHER..he found out two of his very best friends in the world just passed away, within the last 2 weeks. so i kinda just brought him homemade pot roast, squeezed his hand, and said i am here if you need me.
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