My husbands girl best friend was going to come hang out with him while I was at work so I left work to come hang out and he told her not to come
Gonna go ahead and say this now: I’m not worried about if he’s cheating or not because we’ve had this discussion about her before, it’s the principle that I literally BEG for friendship and when I go to work, people wanna hit up my husband which makes me feel rejected and like I’m not good enough to hang out with
For some context, my husband works all day while I stay at home with our 2 toddlers and then I work 7p-11p every night . His family doesn’t come around or offer to watch the boys to give us a break and my family lives 800 miles away. I moved to Michigan (hubbys home) 8 years ago and have yet to make any of my own friends and after having kids have really been struggling with loneliness and depression. Nobody comes around. Nobody calls or texts to just check in. So that leaves me with my husband and 1 and 2 year old all day everyday. I love my husband to death and I love being in his presence but sometimes I could use a girl ear to bend cause there’s just some things men don’t get or don’t want to talk about.
Obviously husband has friends here because this is his home town and one being a girl who he’s known and been friends with before we ever met. I don’t feel threatened or anything like that. We get along fine and I like her company but it never seems to fail that she wants to hang out when I’m at work at night. So I said something to hubby when he asked if it was cool and I said yes but it sucks for me when people come and hang out when I’m not there and he said omg whatever lll just tell her not to come. So I begged him not to do that because I don’t want him without friends or a social life and even said I’ll come home and hang out too. Well I came home and thought she was still coming over to hang out and I ask and he said no I told you I told her not to come. So now not only do I feel shitty because I don’t feel “cool” enough to hang out with, I also feel shitty because I don’t want to be the wife that keeps him from having a social life. I’m just so envious of it though because I just want one person to be able to call a friend and he at least has that.
All I wanted to do was hang out with another adult female for once but because I felt lonely and left out, my husband told her not to come which makes me feel even worse. Sorry for the rambling I’m just tired of feeling lonely all the time and my husband has what I want and I can’t seem to get what he has no matter what I do.
For some context, my husband works all day while I stay at home with our 2 toddlers and then I work 7p-11p every night . His family doesn’t come around or offer to watch the boys to give us a break and my family lives 800 miles away. I moved to Michigan (hubbys home) 8 years ago and have yet to make any of my own friends and after having kids have really been struggling with loneliness and depression. Nobody comes around. Nobody calls or texts to just check in. So that leaves me with my husband and 1 and 2 year old all day everyday. I love my husband to death and I love being in his presence but sometimes I could use a girl ear to bend cause there’s just some things men don’t get or don’t want to talk about.
Obviously husband has friends here because this is his home town and one being a girl who he’s known and been friends with before we ever met. I don’t feel threatened or anything like that. We get along fine and I like her company but it never seems to fail that she wants to hang out when I’m at work at night. So I said something to hubby when he asked if it was cool and I said yes but it sucks for me when people come and hang out when I’m not there and he said omg whatever lll just tell her not to come. So I begged him not to do that because I don’t want him without friends or a social life and even said I’ll come home and hang out too. Well I came home and thought she was still coming over to hang out and I ask and he said no I told you I told her not to come. So now not only do I feel shitty because I don’t feel “cool” enough to hang out with, I also feel shitty because I don’t want to be the wife that keeps him from having a social life. I’m just so envious of it though because I just want one person to be able to call a friend and he at least has that.
All I wanted to do was hang out with another adult female for once but because I felt lonely and left out, my husband told her not to come which makes me feel even worse. Sorry for the rambling I’m just tired of feeling lonely all the time and my husband has what I want and I can’t seem to get what he has no matter what I do.
