I don’t understand how people overcome trauma or negative life experiences

Well for me that had a traumatic start in life I always felt I could only rely on myself to save me not anyone else. You can’t erase these traumas or ignore them so you have to find a way to live alongside them and accept it happened and you can’t change that but you are in charge of your own future.

You’re being told wrong things.

You’re being told that you are bound by your past experiences. This is a lie.

You’re being told that in order to move forward you must continually relive and reaccount your past traumas, because that what therapists say. But again, this is a lie.

It’s not a lie in the sense that these people are intentionally trying to harm you. But it’s a lie of ignorance. Everyone is following Sigmung Freud’s version of psychology. Where the past and “traumas” define your current and future self. But it’s incorrect. As with lost things, the most popular interpretation of something (in this case, human psychology), is incorrect.

There is no “trauma”.

The past means nothing now.

You can choose your own current self right now. But you don’t believe you can or that you are even allowed to. Because of what “they” say.

But “they” don’t matter either. Do what you want, regardless of what anyone else says or thinks.

You should look into Alfred Adler’s interpretation of human psychology. It is much more accurate and true. You can be in control.

Start with reading The Courage To Be Disliked. It’s a popular Japanese interpretation of Adler’s beliefs, which is very very easy to understand and put into practice.

Then, start reading about Stoicism. The Daily Stoic is a good place to start.

Time heals all wounds. I think.

do you breathe with your tummy? and allow yourself to feel your emotions?