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How to overcome this with guys?

Today this really attractive guy kept looking at me while I was walking...he was working on a house. I think he looked at me 3 times, and all 3 times, I looked back down. I get SUPER self conscious and just dont feel confident. I thought, well even if I know I need to lose 25 pounds, he STILL looked, and maybe wasnt thinking of my insecurities. I felt nice though , in those moments that he looked. 🌺 I just want to feel I can smile at a guy and NOT look away. I guess its because I feel Im not whole, that I am not enough... like, they may see my outer appearance, but dont know the anxiety ridden Me, so I look down. Any tips on How I can look up and feel good about me, despite these flaw/issues???🙁
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JoyfulSilence · 51-55, M
I have no advice, since nobody checks me out, or at least if they do, I never notice.

I check out a lot of women, though. Usually I feel a little bad and creepy about it. I always sense that when a woman notices she is disgusted, and if she would have noticed she would have been disgusted. Often simply because of the age gap. My eyes tend to focus on younger women, even though I would prefer to talk to and spend time with women my age, since we are mature and can relate to each other. But I am a man so young attractive women catch my eye.

I have never noticed any woman I look at, who sees me looking, having a shy reaction. But that would not bother me, since all I ever expect is women being annoyed or disgusted by a creepy old man like me.

In any event, I have mostly given up all hope of ever having a girlfriend. So when I look it is just to admire.

If I want to interact with women I just come on here.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@JoyfulSilence Im sure they are not disgusted 🍁
JoyfulSilence · 51-55, M
@Coralmist

I hope some are not.

I feel guilty since mostly all I am thinking about is sex.

Yet sometimes I think about love, and just cuddles. Less carnal stuff.

But if I were in love with a woman, I would want to make love with her, too.